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Come As You Are

Posted by Robyn Urback / Posted on November 17, 2011

Come As You Are SexCome As You Are (CAYA) has been Toronto's cooperative sex store for over 15 years, though now, it's offering its organic lubes and Fun Factory Dukes from a little further east.

CAYA held post at "The 701" from the beginning, just relocating to a new spot on Queen West this past Tuesday.

"It was sort of emotional," co-owner Sarah Forbes-Roberts tells me as we stand in the new shop on opening day. "We were all there Sunday, crying; we have a lot of memories there."

Come As You Are SexSarah tells me the landlord of the old building was planning on some significant renovations, so the team decided they ought to start looking for a new spot. "Team," I should mention, is a key word here. As noted above, Come As You Are is a cooperative, meaning its workers have the opportunity to share in ownership, and decision-making at and about the shop is a collaborative process.

Come As you Are SexOpenness, in other words, is a core value, and that openness is literally on display in the new store. "In the old building," Sarah tells me, "the web team was on the second floor. Here, we're all on the same level."

The office is actually right at the back of the store, divided from the retail section by just a low wall. "We want people to be able to talk with us--ask us questions--even when we're back there," Sarah says.

Come As You SexBy no means am I an expert on Toronto sex shops (I felt I needed to say that, just in case my grandparents are reading) but I've always known CAYA to be the one for real information, not simply candy panties. That is, if you actually want to know about a toy, or a book, or a video, you can count on answers from CAYA staff. (Or just pick up one of the free pamphlets around the store, titled "From Bottom to Top: BDSM For Beginners" and "Gee Whiz: The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation.")

Come As You Are SexCASA also touts itself as an "inclusive" sex shop; it's not just hetero-missionary here, in other words. There are books such as The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex ($19.95), vegan-friendly Sliquid Organics lube ($28/8oz), female condoms ($2.50/ea), bondage gear, and, of course, plenty of videos, accessories, and other toys.

Come As You Are SexSarah tells me the extra space afforded by the new digs will be used for more luxury toys, expand selection of specialty lubes, and provide extra legroom for CAYA's many workshops. You can check out its website for workshop dates and information.

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ana / August 31, 2011 at 08:17 pm
hi' my name is ana, i'm sending this e-mail because i would like to know some stuff or medication when it comes to lovemaking, specifically to my husband,were looking a pills, cream, jelly or ointment..or what ever you have guys that my husband can use..his problem when we make lovemaking after a few minutes his done immediately, so we couldn't more enjoy more or we couldn't experience the real orgasm..

i'm looking forward that you guys could be able to help us regarding this matter..

thank you very much..
m / November 17, 2011 at 10:30 am
what are the fists for?
steve / November 17, 2011 at 10:56 am
It's Criminal Records!
Matt EH / November 17, 2011 at 10:57 am
The fist goes on the night table so you can give yourself props if you landed a cougar
uncle fister replying to a comment from m / November 17, 2011 at 11:08 am
Rmund / November 17, 2011 at 11:15 am
Fists also good for "Power to the People" moments, or "How about THIS Occupying your fat ass, Wall Street?"
James Hamilton / November 17, 2011 at 07:24 pm
@ Matt EH - high fives for the hilarious answer!
mattdebat replying to a comment from m / November 17, 2011 at 11:19 pm
you five wishes!
Jack replying to a comment from m / November 17, 2011 at 11:28 pm
The fists are primarily art! But they're technically usable... by the very ambitious :)
Dan replying to a comment from Matt EH / November 18, 2011 at 02:07 pm
@Matt EH: That answer = so much win!
PedoBear replying to a comment from Matt EH / November 19, 2011 at 12:04 am
Best. Answer. Ever.
Jack Lamon replying to a comment from ana / March 2, 2013 at 12:59 am
Hey Ana -

We find most of the uh, 'supplements' don't work so well, but you might check out the MultiOrgasmic Man or Lasting Longer (both books) for some ideas on how to extend your lovemaking sessions!

Effeminist / December 6, 2014 at 02:10 am
So, Come as You Are. Why is it that there seems to be no such thing as Female-POV porno. I'm a guy, somewhat bisexual, had my on-and-off ethics about consuming porn at all, but when I pondered the question of Point-of-View pornography (don't see the man's face, but see all of the woman he's fucking), I found myself pretty turned on at the idea of Female point-of-view. How effacing, how unusual, to see the man struggling to contain orgasm, finding a woman's orgasm, straining and bucking, while a woman videotapes. Does this not translate for female audiences? Are there other guys with this turn-on? I figured as the purveyor of name-your-counterculture sensitive smut, indie porns and the like, maybe you had some idea.

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