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Dimitri the Lover Exposes Himself
Luckily, the notorious pick up artist and host of Toronto Real Men meetings has exposed both himself and his questionable tactics in a new documentary The Great Intoxication (at 11m30s in).
The Great Intoxication: An Exploration Into The World of Seduction is a fascinating documentary by Matthew Manuge, about Toronto's seduction community. This community has been gaining popularity among single men with the growth of Toronto Lairs, seduction clubs which show men how to pick up and score with women. Featured in the documentary, Torontonian Frank Kermit (who founded the official Toronto lair) seems to focus on understanding the emotional needs of women in his approach to seduction.
These lair meetings, which the doc describes as "anonymous gatherings of men with a sincere devotion to helping on another" shouldn't necessarily be demonized. It's clear from the documentary that this community isn't all bad and does serve a support function.
However Dimitri 'the Lover' crosses the line, as he blatantly debases women to give the men a tenuous sense of power. His notion of dominance, rather than being loving, protective, and eschewing the values of traditional D/s relationships, seems to instead promote predatorial and abusive tactics as a way of satisfying the self at the expense of others.
Hardly seen as a lover, Dimitri is viewed by some Torontonians as a dangerous manipulator and outspoken bigot... here's a few of the lessons (paraphrased) Dimitri has to share in his 10 minute segment:
Heterosexual men should never dance.
Once you get her naked, you can just jerk off on her or whatever - it's just about conquest.
7 hours is too long to 'waste' seducing a woman.
The same way a fat woman runs towards a cheesecake, Dimitri wants a woman who sees a cock and goes fuckin' nuts.
Feminism has destroyed the courtship ritual; [women's] biological calling is to be gang banged on a daily basis.
Metrosexuals are closet fags; metrosexuality is a big feminist media conspiracy and guys should not be metrosexuals at all.
The metrosexual will get a certain sort of 'fag-haggish' sort of woman, but he's not going to get the fucking and sucking action that a Dimitri's going to get.
Having listened to a good 10 minutes of Dimitri's sexual philosophies, I am somewhat surprised to find myself agreeing with a lot of what he says. Aside from the inflammatory comments above, he does have a very clear grasp of the biological roles of men and women, and some of the psychological forces at play behind our seductive tendencies and sexual desires. He's not saying anything that isn't based in truth, but his truths are also highly opinionated in terms of execution.
In particular, I think he has a good grasp on the notion of submission; how a woman wants a man to submit to her sexual desires, but not necessarily to be submissive. The director perhaps puts it best: "...out of all the pick up artists that I've met, Dimitri was probably the most honest - maybe a little too honest." But there is definitely some food for thought in Dimitri's egomaniacal proclamations.
As for men who are turning to people like Dimitri for advice, this documentary offers a few alternate options. For example, Michael 'the Dating Wizard', seems to understand the true goal of most men, who aren't just looking for easy ways to pick up. "It's much harder to make yourself the kind of person that's a quality person on all fronts... to meet a quality girl who's a quality person on all fronts, and to keep it going with passion. We need to have more gurus [who focus on] that." If more men thought like this, maybe women wouldn't fear the predations of men like Dimitri, so they could let down their guard and be more open to pick up attempts from 'good guys'.
Now familiarized with Dimitri's face and his MO, I can only hope this exposure helps prevent any women from falling victim to 'the Lover' out of ignorance. Of course, according to Dimitri this is what some women want, in which case I wish him and his score card all the best.
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Uhhh...I can't even come up with anything...no wait...what is the typing equivalent to vomit?
Right?
It has to be...LOL
There's something, though not much, to be admired about someone like Dimitri. The ease of which he can and does approach women shows a sexual confidence and the ability to envision the end result of his conquests - fucking... er, or kicking women down stairs with bus tokens... Whatever floats your boat, Greasy. However for the kind of women - or maybe that's the way he sees all women - he is looking to bed down and subsequently teach his "students" to go after, one has to wonder if these tactics have any chance of landing someone for a relationship that is based on more lasting qualities.
Now for most reading this and looking at the man on the surface, that seems like a ridiculous prospect. I mean, what woman agrees that it's her biological calling to be used as a fucktoy in daily gangbangs? Well, deep down I'm sure a lot. Just as most of us guys would prefer a world that more closely resembles the movie, "Up! Pompeii" where women more plainly leave the door open for sexual advances and remove the 'need' for a man to court her.
I find it interesting that he would say, "Feminism has destroyed the courtship ritual" - has it really? That seems to call upon some deeply rooted insecurity that a more sexually confident woman somehow ruins a man's ability to be dominant. On the contrary, it likely improves relations between the two because from what I've gleaned from feminism and equality as a movement, women want sex just as much as men do, and have just as many lurid desires to express it - if not more. So what's wrong with a guy using that to his advantage?
It's funny that as I read this article and watch a fat guy in a Hawaiian shirt alongside a shallow douchebag tell me what women want that I am also reading a little book called, "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" by John Gray that, granted is more aimed at people IN relationships rather than people interested in finding them, but I continue my search for a balance between being respectful, being respectfully accepted, and mixing the ingredients into something that culminates in wildly passionate sex that has legs.
So while all of us want to pick up women more easily, to add to to what you said Corina regarding Dimitri's execution - it's more than fine to approach women as a scumbag, but be prepared to pick up women who are into scumbags. Thanks a lot, Dimitri.
If the rambling paragraphs you carefully crafted are any indication of how you interact with other human beings, then trust me when I say this: nobody anywhere anytime anyhow wants to have sex with you or your retarded sexual worldview.
You calling someone in the film a "shallow douchebag" is the height of irony.
If you've managed to find a from-first-contact Rico Suave who is devoid of insecurity issues down the line when it matters most, more power to you. That "raw machismo" rite with all the put-downs Dimitri wraps his verbage around may win some women over, but I'm into women with a bit more self-respect ;) Good luck!
He had many relationships....I could easily get with 100 whores in Toronto, but what matters at the end is QUALITY.
How do you think the women are going to feel after you use them for your pleasure, Dimitri? Women will get bitter towards REAL men because you were nice to them and complimented them just to satisfied that tiny dick of yours. You manipulate women, you use women and try to wrap your actions with nice looking wrapping paper.
The problem is the men who go to these courses are feeling the worst about their sexual experiences with women and get these idiots to put thoughts in their head about what is 'natural'. I find it scary that people are saying these 'seducers' are 'being honest'. What honesty is there in women wanting to feel like a slut and be gang-raped.
The women who want these things are the women who are just as messed up as the men going to these classes.
FYI everyone has problems meeting people at some point in their lives. It doesn't mean you have to end up hating the very gender you want.
Aaaand we have a winnar.
You heard EXACTLY what he said but are trying to spread rumours and gossip.
Secondly, you said "Everyone has problems meeting people at some point in their lives. It doesn't mean you have to end up HATING the very gender you want."
I did not find any of what Dimitri said "hateful". Perhaps socially inappropriate and sexually aggressive, but a man who "hates" women does not preach "submission" to their sexual needs.
"During a professional visit to the first female complainant, Dr. Sears made comments to the effect that he would like to get to know her better, that sex was fun and that he would call her later about getting together for a drink. He also pulled her to him and kissed her on the neck. The second complainant was visited in her home and, following a clinical evaluation, was asked about her sex life, present commitments and past involvements with married men. Dr. Sears then discussed his unsatisfactory sexual relationship with his wife and asked the patient to date him or to become involved in a sexual relationship with him. She declined both requests. Upon leaving, he hugged and kissed her and suggested that she should reconsider her decision."
Sounds like our Dimitri has been pretty consistent since 1994! (lol) I'm a nurse and none of this surprises me. This is pretty minor on the scale of physician sexual impropriety. I'm surprised the college threw the book at him for THAT.
And my thoughts on "Dimitri The Lover"? I wish there were more men like him in Toronto. I'm originally from Montreal and love sexually aggressive men.
Anyway, I believe firmly that the women and men who adhere to his half-baked, decidedly unscientific notion of the "biological roles" of the sexes deserve each other.
There was a study by Rudman & Phelan (Rutgers University) in 2007 that found that the male partners of feminists actually report greater relationship stability and more sexual satisfaction. Possibly because neither party is desperately trying to re-enact a social model from millions of years ago.
God people, try to exercise the tiniest bit of critical thinking when it comes to social and evolutionary pop psychology.
Any post that includes "I wish more men were like this etc" is just Dimitri.
My issue is this idiotic "women really want to be sluts all the time, and real men only ever want sluts" angle is that it cheapens women and men both. Aren't the most interesting people layered? Why is there something wrong with a man who does care what's on his lover's mind? I ask this with the same tone I might ask a more radical feminist element why there's something wrong with a woman who likes to fuck? Sure, social roles might be based on some truth, but it's silly to think we live within them for a lifetime--it's more likely we live in them only from hour to hour.
In a way some of what Dimitri says about metrosexuality is true--as a trend, the feminized man is the opposite extreme on the spectrum that ranges to Dimitri's chauvenism. Neither extreme seems largely destined to engender any lasting relationships, relationships that should contain the emotional and the carnal in equal dollop.
The Real Game, is on the Comedy Network.
Chris, Peaches, Alex & Sheldon teach me all I need to know and be successful, all on KEYS TO THE VIP.
Keys to the VIP trashes this Dimitri cunt. Plus it's probably the best Canadian Content show on the air
Thinly veiled, I'm afraid. NEW GAME?
Also--Dimitri is attractive?
Seriously guys, why does this tired, lame, sad, totally DONE TO DEATH topic continue to spring anew here and elsewhere? This guy isn't worth the time, and continually vilifying the dude reeks of stinky self-indulgence (if not moral panic). Just let it go, BlogTO.
"Having listened to a good 10 minutes of Dimitri's sexual philosophies, I am somewhat surprised to find myself agreeing with a lot of what he says. Aside from the inflammatory comments above, he does have a very clear grasp of the biological roles of men and women, and some of the psychological forces at play behind our seductive tendencies and sexual desires."
Seriously, girl - step away from the Camille Paglia. Honest to god, biggest crock of shit since "Men are from mars, women are from Venus" and Dr. Phil (if Dr Phil were a sociopath with narcissistic personality disorders)
This wacky dude has been a friend of mine for some time. As a female friend he treats me with respect, honour and loyalty. I know that if my car ever broke down in the middle of nowhere at 2am and I called him, he would come without hesitation. In my experience of him, he is anything but a mysoginist. He's sweet, quirky and amusingly opinionated. Thank goodness some people still have the balls to honestly speak their mind.
Dimitri says: "You can ask a woman to suck you cock, and if she's into it, she'll do it"
No shit. Guess what, I can walk up to a guy, tell him to come home with me and if he's into it, he'll do it. Life kinda works that way - if someone is already agreeable to an idea, they'll do it.
People like sex - it's not hard to get. The "Dating Wizard" was right - find me a relationship guru and I'll be impressed.
He says women should get more head, amen, but just because someone sprinkles one speck of truth into a bucket full of crap doesn't make it appetizing.
Corina, maybe you have some issues you need to iron out with your boyfriend. That one speck of truth seems to have touched you where it hurts.
Ah thanks love, I needed a good laugh this morning.
And honestly, with so many more infinitely interesting people living and working in Toronto, BlogTO has to focus on him AGAIN? Are the page-view hits just too good to pass up or what?
Also, I purposefully avoid tripe like 'men are from mars...', Dr. Phil, and Camile Paglia (whose name I barely recognize) - so should you.
Finally, the only IP comments that I can see matched? 'um' and 'PW' - interesting.
I think the number of comments, even those inspired to question the article's validity or purpose, demonstrate the reason for posting this; beyond the obvious 'gawk' factor, of course ;)
hahaha... although I'm not inclined to agree (male sluts gross me out) this was very cleverly put :)
All I can think of is South Park and crab people when I see metrosexuals.
It amazes me just how many people think MONOGAMY, FAITHFULNESS, and LOYALTY are interchangeable terms. They are not.
LOYALTY is the only one of the three that is mandatory for both partners in order to create a healthy relationship. LOYALTY within a relationship is in essence the fulfillment of the contract of love forged between two people. It is one's DUTY to one's spouse. DUTY involves doing things that one is expected to do, even if one does not want to do them. An integral part of being LOYAL is being HONEST with your spouse.
However, since it is unhealthy for a man to worship a woman, it follows that being FAITHFUL to her is not healthy for a man. However, for a relationship to be solid, A WOMAN MUST WORSHIP HER MAN. Therefore, FEMALE FAITHFULNESS is MANDATORY.
Also, MONOGAMY is unnatural and therefore its practice is unhealthy.
I have found that men who do NOT practice polygamy and men who are OFFENDED when in the company of men participating in sexually-charged conversations, tend to be BACKSTABBERS. They are extremely DISLOYAL to spouses, colleagues, and friends. They tend to be HYPOCRITES in every facet of their lives and cannot be trusted with money. They will steal, not come through in a clinch, and fold up like a wet paper bag when questioned by an authority figure, ratting out everyone they can think of to save their own skin.
Furthermore, men who are afraid to act and speak like men in front of their wives and girlfriends also cannot be trusted. These two-faced cowards are the scum that float on the male gene pool.
On the other hand, men who have their sexual needs completely fulfilled by practicing polygamy invariably have healthier egos. They are generous, loving individuals who are so satisfied with themselves and so secure in their masculinity, that they need not abuse the trust of others to compensate for an unfulfilled psychological need. In my life I have found, ALMOST WITHOUT EXCEPTION, that the man who constantly "cheats" on his spouse is often extremely LOYAL both to her and the people around him. He never displays bitterness or animosity. If his wife winds up in a wheelchair, he'll stay by her side to the day she dies.
But one important caveat here: if one is exercising his or her natural polygamous tendencies, then one must be candid about it with one's spouse. The only immoral facet of fucking people outside of one's relationship is the lie associated with covering up the act. If you need sex on the side, tell your spouse BEFORE you commence doing it. If a spontaneous animalistic act took place (i.e. your pretty young secretary bent over and you jumped her), then tell your wife at the first appropriate opportunity thereafter, preferably after making passionate love and declaring your undying devotion to her.
Also, try to choose sexual partners that are open to including your spouse in the encounters, then offer this option to your spouse. If he or she refuses, and you decide to pursue it on your own anyway, be completely up front with your spouse about what you are doing and be reasonable with them if they decide to end the relationship. Lying about extramarital sex is extremely immoral. I especially have a moral issue with dating services which cater to cheating spouses and media which run ads for such services. What message does the dissemination of this information send to our children? It is OK to lie as long as you do not get caught? What one doesn't know won't hurt them? Give me a break!
PLEASE NOTE: if your spouse says “Do this or else I’ll cheat”, and you choose not to do it, morally he or she need not inform you when they starts “cheating”. You were forewarned, and if you were too pig-headed to register the warning, it is your tough luck!
Are you so internalized that you can't for a second believe that people think differently than you? Time to log off your computer and meet a wider array of people.
I've met all sorts of people (men and women) who are into things, not into things etc etc. 'Most' women I know are not into whiny little metrosexual, vegan males (we used to call them emo kids) and they are VERY much into sex and their sexuality. If one of them is looking for a one night stand or a sexual partner, w/o the relationship, this is the kind of guy that they are going to turn to. If on the other hand they want the smothering-whackness that usually comes from guys like Justin above, they will find someone who 'cares' and get married to them.
re: primal instincts. SOCIAL progression has nothing to do with it at all, not even sure what you're thinking when you write that.
I'm not defending this guy as I really don't know very much about him (other then what I've read on this site), but from what I've read, he's not that far off base, actually.
If only that were the case. Poly relationships come with their own set of problems that may well be the fault of the people who engage in those relationship - but what is theory without practical application in the real world? Oh yeah.. communism.
Okay - that's BS, but it's a joke I couldn't resist making.
My point is, it's a spectrum. Some people do choose to practice monogamy. Some people choose to practice polygamy. Some of us make a blend of the two. Yet other simply fail at life.
Similarly, you can't pretend we live in a state of nature or purely follow rules of social contract. It isn't nature or nurture. It's a blend.
Heather, that's the allure of a man like Dimitri: He's operating in a state of PURE UNADULTERATED NATURAL MALENESS. No watered-down, metrosexualized blend of a man. Some women, like myself, want a man that has discarded "nurture" and "social conditioning" and cares not what the world thinks of him and his roving penis. A man in that state turns me on. The part of me that is disgusted by Dimitri is the part that was socially conditioned into me. My sexual physiology wants to submit to being sexually ravaged by him. That part of each woman is what Dimitri depends on to seduce her.
To each her own.
D - congrats on your expanding sexaulity. But to be clear, I'm not arguing one way or the appeal or lack of appeal that Dimitri has.
For the record though, I would go to town on Jude Law's cock. Or Hugh Jackman (I mean, the man got his start as a broadway dancer - that's pretty metro isn't it?). IMO, to limit the definition of what's possible to turn someone on means you could be missing out on a lot of great sexual experiences. Dimitri's just one flavour in the box.
i want to give him a big hug
I love how TnO articles make people get all passionate in the comments; nice to know you care ;)
As you can see from some of the material on his web site, he preys on women who have emotional or social issues, and women who are otherwise damaged. This is known as re-victimization. These women have problems and are looking for some sense of worth. Having someone like this man screw them gives them a sense of being, whether it is for 10 seconds, or an hour, and regardless of whether they have an orgasm, or even enjoy it.
This man will either find himself in the company of an angry woman sometime, and he will be made to suffer or even murdered, or else he will suddenly find himself very old, and very lonely, having been replaced younger models of himself.
There will be men like this as long as women continue to equate being used with having worth. And also as long as the media continues to give out free press to idiots...
If you had posted your comment EXCLUDING this one paragraph, it may have come off as objective to most readers (except myself and perhaps Corina, who seems quite astute). However, this one paragraph displays such subconscious anger, bitterness, resent, and animosity toward men, that it's evident you speak from personal negative experiences with men and are transposing them onto Dimitri. In your mind it appears that he represents everything that you feel is wrong with men. You write the paragraph as if you are imagining yourself commiting the suffering and murder upon Dimitri.
Also, you stated "Dimitri looks effeminate, he is unkempt, he dresses badly, and obviously has low self-esteem." I think he is pretty metro-ey looking whether he likes to admit it or not, and self-esteem is subjective, but "unkempt" and "dresses badly". Are you watching the same videotape everyone else is? I dated a guy for 3 years who's idea of "dressing up" to go out was putting on a shirt without stains and combing his hair. I think you are blinded by pure anger.
I would normally not bother with commenting on an angry post, but from a psychological perspective I am very curious. Something in this man's web site must have set you off. What exactly was it?
Where did you find this information about Dimitri?
From your experiences are do Doctors do worse thing than Dimitri is accused of? I don't spend much time around people in the medical profession so i have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.
"Not only have we have plenty of reader interest, but I thought it might be helpful to actually see what Dimitri looks like - hence this newly spawned article."
His picture had already been published elsewhere. You're not on any kind of new ground here. Reader confusion/bewilderment as to why you are recycling moldy old stories about irrelevant jerks like Dmitri is not the same as "reader interest".
"... and Camile Paglia (whose name I barely recognize) ..."
Oh my. Wow. Unreal.
"I think the number of comments, even those inspired to question the article's validity or purpose, demonstrate the reason for posting this ..."
You're deluding yourself. People suggesting the piece was pretty much pointless to write or post can't be lazily equated with some kind of raison d'etre for your efforts! The entire point here is you've given more ink to Dmitri for practically no reason. This is well-trod ground, and comments telling you so aren't a reason to believe anything else.
Here's the REAL secret: if you take care of yourself, if you try make something of yourself, if you are smart and social, chances are good that you're going to get to stick your penis in sexy women.
As for my prediction of his future, predators often find themselves in situations where they become the victim. Given that this person has chosen to be so public, he has put himself in danger. Trust me, if I felt like hurting what's-his-name, I'd say so. I'm angry, remember? And further, there is nothing in his "manifesto" that suggests he has any intention of forming any kind of lasting relationship with anyone. Sounds like someone is going to be lonely...
As for his appearance, I was just talking about the picture above, but you're right, I'm spoiled, my husband is the bomb.
But he's actually a fluffy bunny under it all. He's been very respectful of my vegan lifestyle (he actually cooked for me once) and was a great support when I lost my beloved cat. I don't know why he feels he needs this public persona, but I'm happy to count him as a friend.
He is indeed a lover of mine (and a thumping good one, it must be said). But if he lived up to the self-promotion, he'd have been kicked out of my bed that first night he found me wandering aimlessly down Queen Street. I could dish more, but I am a lady ;-)
And trust me, that's probably how he wants to die.
http://hollabackto.blogspot.com/2009/01/dumped-by-dimitri.html
http://hollabackto.blogspot.com/2009/01/more-dirt-on-dimitri.html
(I can handle Mr. Lover bringing a 3rd to help with the work load, lol) It appears that he has universally good lovemaking reviews. I did not trust the "Lovemaking References" section on his web site because he could have written those himself, being a shameless self-promoter and all.
I read on his web site under a section titled "Remarkable Facts" that: "If you Google 'Dimitri not satisfying a woman' you get zero results. It just doesn't happen." Another one: "When Dimitri falls into water, Dimitri doesn't get wet. Instead, water gets Dimitri."
This guy is just too alpha to pass up. I hope I'm the one to give him performance anxiety. Well, time for a rum and coke to help give me the courage to compose a "let's meet for a coffee" message.
WHERE ARE ALL THE REAL MEN IN THIS CITY !!!
Shouldnt you be out there preying on damaged women instead of pretending to be them on the internet?
I think I understand why Dimitri upsets you because there seems to be only one "Serje" in Toronto on both Facebook and MySpace, namely this gentleman, who is a "male model". Perhaps D.'s comment about metrosexuality and "male models" upset you: http://www.myspace.com/superserje
You don't upset me Dimitri/Sylvia. In fact you are turning me on baby.
Now look at my Myspace page. Listen to that sexy music. Imagine me singing to you. Do you find me sexy? MMMMMMMMMMM. Fap fap fap.
I think our societal norms subvert masculinity to the point where it has been leveled with femininity - how ridiculous! The sexes are not the same and, though they have equal 'value' and deserve equal respect, they are not themselves equal. You'll notice I allude to 'traditional D/s relationships' in the article... my intention here is to demonstrate that Dominance and submission is in fact traditional, but current political demands call for a more bland approach to relationships.
I like to think of men and women as each having highly specialized roles in the relationship, both of which must fit together the right way to create a true spark. But then that's just circumstantial... fact is we live in a society that doesn't really embrace sexuality other than to yield it as a weapon, whether it's men or women using it on each other.
Again, while I don't agree with all of Dimitri's tactics, I do wish that more men embraced their natural 'Alpha' instincts when it came towards women. Honesty, so long as it's accompanied by reasonably good hygiene, generally works.
Speak to me baby. You can pretend to be a girl again. I like it.
Is it because you can't see your mother in me? I know she treated you bad. I am sorry for that. Let Dr. Serje make you feel better. I want to heal that damaged little boy inside of you.
Momma likes it when you pretend to be a girl. Keep on being a girl for me Dimitri. You know you love doing it.
Though despite all the names we "all" could probably fit into a phonebooth with room to spare. Either way I can show you all my alpha male moves. Rowr!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_N._Sears
The Relationship Guy.
it's not even worth a response, the guy is a douche bag.
If all it took was chest hair and a complete lack of social graces to be a man, then ladies, your bar is really low.
Don't buy the manure these lady commentors are shovelling regarding Dimitri's approach. They don't like honesty and certainly not in the way they think we should like their "honesty". This Dimitri clown is not a man, certainly not alpha. Do you even know what being alpha male means? And no, all men are not alpha as several hundreds of generations of beta males have been sent to their peril in wars.
Although I think Dimitri uses excessive (for my taste) language to describe his philosophies, using Borat style shock humor, there is truth to what he says. You just have to temper it with your real world experiences, which of course means not hiding in a CAVE, but actually observing things the way they actually are (and not what you want them to be).
I made a blog in which I share my views on sex and dating, but using a more moderate approach, but which is just as honest, and without the sugar coating. http://meetfranco.blogspot.com
Evolution happened for a reason, theres a time and a place for every instinct and emotion. Dimitri approaches women and intimidates them by his arrogant, slimy, controlling persona, infact he is so disgusting, you'd be willing to give him not only your number but your house and your car just so that you DONT have to see him ever again in your life. He claims that he's good with women and has dated millions, the only way this could be true is if they were all tied up in his basement, drugged and mutilated.
The fact that some people actually follow/like him, might suggest that he has a 'charismatic' persona, but so did Hitler. PLEASE never want any guy to be like Dimitri; visiting your local prison for a conjugal experience with your friendly neighbourhood rapist, would probably be a much more satisfying experience.
ps. FRANCO. Dimitri does not ooze sexuality, he distorts it so bad that even if you were an open minded good giving all loving superfreak after meeting him you'd want to cut off your own genitalia,scrape your nails, pull out your hair and poke your eyes out and go on Oprah to set up a charity to build a Dimitri-proof bomb shelter for every woman (may be even man) on the planet.
GOOD LUCK and safe living to you all.
Please GET OUT of the nursing profession if this is the outlook that you have. We DO NOT need health care professionals who condone this type of behavior. I hope that yo do not treat rape victims.
And please educate yourself on this sexual predator, James Sears aka "Dimitri the Lover". He assaulted MANY WOMEN as a resident and as a doctor. He was evaluated by a Canadian Military psychiatrist who specifically said that "there is something wrong" with this person.
And to buy into these generalizations about men and women show how ignorant and uneducated you people truly are.
STOP GIVING US REAL MEN A BAD NAME!
http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/grp/1208900613.html
http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/grp/1208900613.html
Of course, we here in the states have plenty of whackjobs, some have their own TV shows, like Bill O'Reilly. And of course the Rev Fred Phelps. This James Sears/Dimitri character is the closest thing to Fred Phelps that I have found in Canada. I don't know why people think that this loser has any credibility. I am heartened by the thoughtful responses denouncing him on this forum, however.
EVERYONE KNOWS YOU'RE THAT DIMITRI CREEP. GIVE IT UP.
Everyone else:
Hi!
As I said, nail him for copyright infringement.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/christoum/3704411688/
Yesterday I was walking through the Ryerson University campus when a man approached me. He was tall, well-dressed, and good looking. I really liked his long brown hair and his eyes. He complimented me on my "elegant" walk (which no one has ever told me), we chatted for a bit, then he asked if I was single and I admitted "yes". He asked for my number and I said "no" and explained that I "don't date strangers". He asked if I only date "family members". I laughed, but would not give him my number. I really found him attractive and wanted to submit to his desires but I am just too timid. He then told me that I had "sexual issues" and could benefit from his "program". He handed me this piece of paper and walked away. My jaw dropped as I read it. I went to his web site and realized that he was a notorious pick-up guru. I just had to share it with the world!
"Christoum" is Dimitri: look at the intro to the picture (intro pasted below). NO woman is that desperate, the below gag-inducing intro could only have been written by Dinitri:
Yesterday I was walking through the Ryerson University campus when a man approached me. He was tall, well-dressed, and good looking. I really liked his long brown hair and his eyes. He complimented me on my "elegant" walk (which no one has ever told me), we chatted for a bit, then he asked if I was single and I admitted "yes". He asked for my number and I said "no" and explained that I "don't date strangers". He asked if I only date "family members". I laughed, but would not give him my number. I really found him attractive and wanted to submit to his desires but I am just too timid. He then told me that I had "sexual issues" and could benefit from his "program". He handed me this piece of paper and walked away. My jaw dropped as I read it. I went to his web site and realized that he was a notorious pick-up guru. I just had to share it with the world!
http://pics.livejournal.com/suspiciouslump/pic/00001pse
To be honest, I feel sad for these kind of people. Will they ever find meaning? Will they ever be happy? Sadly, no. Quick gratification yields no fruit in the long run- and people please use condoms/proper contraception. HPV is a leading STI with almost 80 strains and counting with symptoms including vaginal infections, warts (both sexes) and cervical cancer. And sorry, but herpes is PERMANENT.
http://www.progressiveadvertiser.com/dimitri-the-stud-year-long-viral-sensation-is-a-hoax/
He hands women these narcissistic, sick, disturbing flyers:
http://pics.livejournal.com/suspiciouslump/pic/00001pse
And now, he is promoting all out RAPE at his meetings. Read this ENTIRE ANNOUNCEMENT. He compares women to dogs and encourages RAPE:
http://www.dimitrithelover.com/toronto_real_men_october_2009.html
This man MUST be stopped. I am going to build a web site to organize a protest outside his next meeting. My blood is boiling right now and I am not well. I will post back when I have more details. I will not reveal contact information yet for fear of retribution from this sick man.
Keep well my friends.
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Bravo!
Give me a call at 647-725-2153 or check out www.tdotpickup.com or the Meetup Group Toronto Pickup Artists for more details