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Dimitri the Lover Models the "Real Man"
Like any major urban centre, Toronto has its landmarks and attractions; things the visitors are encouraged to see. From opera to architecture we're used to seeing these objects of civic pride measured against other cities knickknacks in the never-ending competition for tourist bucks.
Then there are the activities you don't usually hear about, the ones you can't necessarily enjoy with the entire family. Some are praiseworthy (gay couples from the States coming up here to get married), others leave a distinctly bad taste in my mouth (swinger couples visiting Club Wicked; is that the best we can do?) and a few are really weird (Reg Hartt screenings; more about him later).
Somewhere in between the last two is Dimitri the Lover and his Toronto Real Men meetings. If you don't already know, he is the latest iteration in a long line of pick-up artists (PUA) offering up the secrets of seduction to hapless guys all over the country.
Now, I've read The Game, a book about "the seduction community" by Neil Strauss, a reporter, and I was left with the impression that the ring-leaders are a bunch of vaguely-gothic guys and wannabe-hypnotists, most of them lonely and consequently very controlling. Their websites are, for the most part, slick and well-produced. They seem to be trying really hard and are all about "the sell', whether it comes to hitting on women or flogging their products.
Jenny, a fellow writer at blogTO, had come across his website after finding a flyer he put up along College St. After browsing Dimitri's website, I found myself wondering if he could possibly be serious. Equal parts rambling personal philosophy and shameless self-promotion, its outrageous nature almost managed to overshadow a very comprehensive list of courses, ranging from a $197 Dating Needs Analysis to a personal, one-on-one couching session from Dimitri for $5,997. My favorite was the no expenses spared $97,500 "Cult Builder program" that promises to teach "POWERFUL techniques of psychological and sexual enslavement". Diabolical indeed...
While I wasn't quite expecting some kind of reboot of the Manson Family, I had no idea what to expect. Jenny and I were quite nervous about attending the March meeting of the Toronto Real Men's group. Would they sniff us out immediately or would they be sneaky and expose our agenda through the careful repetition of information-gathering questions?
Jenny: As Japhet and I plotted outside Massimo's about whether we should pretend we're total strangers or friends going into the seduction meeting, we both hushed up when we saw Mr. Lover himself appear at the doorway of Rancho Relaxo. Dressed in black jeans, campers and a black pinstripe sports jacket, he was unmistakable. It was sort of like seeing a celebrity that you only hear about in urban legend horror stories on Don'tdatehimgirl.com But there he was in the flesh, chatting on his cell phone.
Japhet: The intimidating part was how he was checking us out the whole time. I felt like I couldn't talk; he had the kind of gaze that zeros in you and makes you feel like he's hearing every single word you say.
Eventually, we introduced ourselves and it was like a switch turned on as he suddenly became the warm, welcoming host. He asked both of us three or four questions but never quite let us finish, preferring to draw his own conclusions in a way that kept us off-balance.
We'd agreed that we weren't going to lie unless absolutely necessary but I was definitely on my guard.
Jenny: Dimitri led Japhet and I upstairs to the bar where he introduced us to several other guys on the prowl. In total, there were 15 of them, ranging in age from their early-20s to mid-40s. I thought they could smell a rat a mile away and maybe some did - by the sheer sight of me - but Dimitri was very welcoming. I was officially the first (bisexual) girl there in the history of Toronto Real Men meetings.
Japhet: While we were being processed by Dimitri's right-hand man and trusty sidekick, he casually talked about keeping "faggots" out of the meeting, an unusual response considering that no gay man would ever try to pick up in an environment like this. Their language throughout the meeting on the topic of homosexuality was strangely stiff; I can't remember the last time I heard someone talk about "the gays".
Apparently, there were supposed to be feminist protesters but they didn't show up. Dimitri had been hoping for picketing and signs and joked that he was disappointed.
Like Jenny said, the 15 guys were mostly young, with two-thirds of them coming across as just socially-awkward with the others being total creeps. Besides his sidekick, there were four regulars who seemed to only show up to be yes-men for their fearless leader. Dimitri, for his part, managed to walk the line between getting the newcomers to open up and sharing jokes about them with his cronies. Jenny and I had little in common with these guys but we still passed, whether it was because Dimitri was all-too happy to have a bigger audience or he just didn't care.
Some of the shy ones came across as genuinely-nice guys who really had no idea how to talk to women and were looking for real help. Since I didn't talk with any of them personally, I can't say whether they actually took any of his advice to heart or not.
A couple of them couldn't get past the seemingly-insurmountable block of actually approaching women they wanted to talk to; a problem that Dimitri admitted he couldn't help them with seeing as his modus operandi mostly pertained to what they could do after the initial approach.
He did seem to have trouble relating to East and West Indian fellows, frequently telling them that a particular bit of advice he'd just given the group "wouldn't work for them", implying that their accent or cultural differences somehow precluded them from being able to employ it without comedic effect.
Jenny: "Those OCAD girls...go after the punky ones," he said. "They're all bi, by the way. You go up to them and say you're one of the most elegant women I've ever seen. Even if they're punked up, their fucking minds are blown because they're not used to being called elegant. They'll do almost anything after that. This girl C. - she wanted me to be her daddy - because she wants to be daddy's little cum-dumpster. C'mon, man, that's a big turn-on for a guy! I saw her walking on Bloor Street, she was smoking a joint, she was walking around. Little fucking slut. Great in bed."
I'm glad I prepared myself for this by watching Magnolia. Dimitri is without a doubt the Frank T.J. Mackey of T.O.
Japhet: Yeah, I've never met Ross Jeffries but he has some strong competition here. At one point Dimitri showed us the address book on his phone that was full of women he was involved with in various stages.
Jenny: Dimitri read off a list of "slut" conquests separated by numbers beside each name. If the name had a one, it meant he'd call them again for sex; two meant maybe and three signified a "dump list."
"After I make love to a woman, if she's worth keeping around and we become friends, I take the one out from in front of the number and she becomes part of the normal phone list," he said. "These ones have a number in front of them which means they're on the slut list at the top."
Japhet: I love how he got that text message from one of them during the meeting!
Jenny: It was from a woman he picked up at a North York mall.
"After I banged her, I wanted her to eat pussy, but she wouldn't go for it, man," he told the crowd matter-of-factly. "I drove up to Newmarket to get laid in a snowstorm because she was hot. It took 45 minutes to get up there, a half hour to warm her up, an hour to service her and a half hour so she didn't feel like she was used."
The guys laughed. I had this cringing smile on my face.
"Jenny, is this too much testosterone for you?" Dimitri laughed.
Testosterone, I can handle. Lack of respect towards women - less so.
Japhet: It got even better when he was enumerating on the all of the great places to pick up women and he asked us what big event was happening in the city this week.
Jenny: That guy in the audience made a joke about, "Two-for-one special at the abortion clinic?"
Japhet: He was definitely one of the heavy-duty creeps. Who says shit like that and thinks its funny? Worse yet, how come every guy in there laughed? Dmitri talked about being a gentleman but then why wouldn't he admonish the guy for going too far?
Jenny: Some of Dimitri's advice seemed to make sense - chocolates, cockiness mixed with humor will catch a woman's attention, giving compliments, etc. - but the way he delivered it bordered on Paul Bernardo predatory.
Japhet: That's funny considering how he said that women in the 416 area code think men are all Paul Bernardo until proven otherwise. He did give off a bit of that vibe though... Let's see, there was:
Lack of Empathy (" A straight woman loves it when a straight guy treats her like a whore.")
Inability to Form Close Relationships ("I don't have friends.")
Inflated Self-Appraisal ("I can get away with that kind of thing.")
Superficial Charm ("You're one of the most elegant women I've ever seen.")
And that's just off the top of my head! He was really good at interrogating people though. When I was recounting a story, he kept on interrupting me, asking specific questions that prevented me from the shaping the flow of my narrative and allowed him to give his own conclusions precedence over mine.
I've never been questioned like that before but I will admit that some of what he said was genuinely good advice. Mind you, we're talking the kind of thing you could pick up in a $4 magazine but it wasn't all cheesy pick-up lines and sexed-up job descriptions.
Yeah, he's probably right that you'll have a better chance picking up at a grocery store than a club. He's also right about white socks and black pants as well but do we really need to pay someone to hear this?
My problem with a lot of what he said lies in the essentially contradictory nature of many of his asides and jokes when stacked up next to his "good intentions" and, of course, that website of his; the elephant in the room. Dimitri can claim that it's merely to get attention but that's a seriously immature and offensive approach to a fundamental problem some men have in relating to women. I find it very difficult to reconcile this impulsive misogynist with his earnest performance of an open, fun-loving pervert.
Jenny: A few days later, I E-mail him asking if he could provide his real name and he figured out with his 170 IQ that I was writing an article.
"I have no issues with cooperating in the writing of an article in that the Toronto Real Men have nothing to hide," he wrote.
"For the personal safety of women I seduced and mentioned at the meeting, please do not go into specifics that could identify them. It is not for me, but I would feel awful if one of your perv readers stalked any of them."
Puh-lease. It certainly has nothing to do with any of the women who are now on his "slut list" finding out in a public forum. Right? Sure. After all, one piece of advice Dimitri the Lover gives to his male worshippers is to never lie for the sake of getting laid.
Japhet: In the section amusingly titled Observations on Life, Dimitri talks about how it's "acceptable for a man to cheat sexually on a woman if she is cheating emotionally on him". How is this honest? How does this even begin to fall in line with any kind of relational framework around polyamory?
In conversations with friends about Dimitri, I heard all sorts of stories. The posters he'd put up also went side-by-side with an online campaign conducted on Livejournal and Lavalife back in 2005. Using exactly the same wording on his posters, these posts had the added attraction of an immediate response from outraged viewers. While I was unable to find much of any information still being archived, one can only imagine the gist of the exchange which probably involved a lot of name-calling.
One of my favorite stories came from a friend of mine who was approached by Dimitri on Bloor St. West. Before being told what he said to her, I was able to recite it back to her!
Jenny: Perhaps the Dan Savage 'campsite rule' can be applied here -- to leave the person you slept with in better condition than which you found her.
"I told my ex I wouldn't give her anal till I proposed," he told the guys. "You cannot believe how romantic she thought that was, that I wouldn't fuck her up the ass until I proposed. I wanted to save it. You might think that's fucking sick. She thought it was perverse, but romantic."
By the sounds of this Greek lover, that's as romantic as it gets. What more could a woman ask for?
Japhet: Dimitri also claimed that Reg Hartt, of Cineforum fame, had really liked his posters and helped put them up. After hearing stories of Mr. Hartt's eerily similar cult-of-personality, complete with impressionable film students living in his house/commune, I can believe it. Who else is going to openly support this kind of thing? I'm surprised Rancho Relaxo isn't having second thoughts.
However, unlike many of Dimitri's more strident opponents, I don't believe he'll have any lasting impact on Toronto or be part of some kind of backwards progression in the psychology of men. He's simply too "out there" to reel in the casual consumer and his antagonistic, low-budget advertising reeks of desperation.
While he may play the alpha wolf in person, there are far too many warning signs for the average guy looking for a confidence boost. I would hazard a guess that many first-time attendees are scared off while the hardcore crowd sticks around in order to have a forum to regurgitate their hateful speech.
So while I encourage anyone sufficiently outraged by Dimitri and his "real men" to let them know exactly how you feel, this kind of thing, like the KKK and Scientology, has no future.


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Also, my first few months at UofT, I thought Reg Hartt was some uber-Christian guy trying to lure people to his place to convert them because his posters were that fucked up.
//"I told my ex I wouldn't give her anal till I proposed," he told the guys//
Considering the structure of the sentence, it sounded like Dimitri was saying that he wouldn't give up /his ass/ to her until he propose, in a "not on the first date" kinda way. If he meant it the other way around, he should have said, "have her anally".
I saw those posters around my campus, it's gross because while we have a lot of adult students, I once met a most charming old lady in an environmental class...most of the students are in their 20s and under, and those creeps really sound like a combo of Paul Bernado and that guy who stalked and killed Taylor Behl.
My advice is, since those guys are so insecure, if they hit on you, explain that they are too straight for you because you like to wear strap-ons. Though didn't Dimitri advocate submitting to women in bed? What if the girl want to watch some m/m?
http://community.livejournal.com/toronto/6710033.html
A lot of this man's behaviors point to symptoms of painfully repressed, latent homosexuality. The bit about the sacred/virginal wedding night anal sex is particularly rich!
apparently he also lost his medical liscence for hitting on patients....and then blamed it on his ex-wife...
what is more disturbing are the responses to this eye weekly article at the bottom.
Oh cheer up, I just read the comments, and they are obviously made by dimitri himself under different instant alias. He's doing the same thing in the Toronto community under the newly registered account, lovemind.
If he just wants to bang-bang-bang, and not be rejected by the actual people he harass over and over again, he should really cruise for these places with gloryhole features...
...and he should try craiglist. Or sit on the side of the road, and carry a giant sign saying he's available for sex with women interested. That would be great because it'll be none-intrusive. The actual approach (or invitation to approach) is great, when done right, but he's Doing It Wrong, and it's annoying how he could annoys women so much, those that do want one-night-stands with the right people are now out of mood.
His other alias is Josephthelover;
http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Josephthelover
"Josephthelover, the world's second worse sock puppeteer"
Best,
Jenny Block
Author of "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage"
www.jennyonthepage.com
I guess it's just a matter of some people here not being comfortable with other people's views on the world, eh?
I mean, sure, they might be contradictory to what you've been used to hearing all these years, but hey, they work for people voicing them out, and if they seem happy with it and people in their life seem happy with it, who are you to complain about that, really?
I'm not taking any sides, just wondering...
Cheers!
www.ArtOfDating.com
Toronto Real Men is looking for a new home...No more Rancho Relaxo!
Dimitri sounds like that affable loser in high school that would always hopelessly flirt outrageously with girls way above his station and then have them laugh in embarrassment as a response. I guess over time they lose the affability and take on a lot of intense arrogance.
Whether Dimitri and the people he meets are happy or not is irrelevant. He is expressing a viewpoint that has an overall negative impact on society. While there might be personal gain for him (and for some people he associates with) he is part of a negative trend and I could not in good conscience let him do what he does without offering my two cents.
You wanna go to Dimitri's meetings? Fine. Google him and read what's he's put up there. Then, read my article, <a href="http://www.eyeweekly.com/city/features/article/22843" target="_blank">Alex's article in Eye</a> and the responses of the Toronto, <a href="http://community.livejournal.com/toronto/6710033.html" target="_blank">Livejournal community</a> as well as the <a href="http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Josephthelover" target="_blank">Encyclopedia Dramatica entry</a>.
If you still think he's on the level, go to his meetings and enjoy yourself. I really don't give a shit 'cos I know most rational people would totally reject his viewpoint.
o ""Anal rape" administered on one?s spouse or girlfriend as a form of punishment when she has displayed a bad attitude, has a virtually 100% success rate in correcting the problem. Also, if your woman submits to the occasional firm ass fucking, you will have complete control over her, guaranteed."
o From "Ten Commandments for Men": ?5. I WILL NOT BEAT MY WOMAN (I am not referring to a single slap or a spanking because your woman has been running at the mouth for a half hour non-stop ... I am referring to beating.) 7. I ACCEPT THAT I AM A BORN MURDERER AND RAPIST (You all know you are. You know that nature has bred it into you. The only thing preventing you from acting on your desires is fear of incarceration. When a man says "I'm going to kill my boss", in the natural world, the boss would be dead. When a woman is bending over to pick up a roast at the grocery store meat department, in the natural world, you'd be lifting up her skirt, pulling down her panties, and pounding her full of tube steak. We are fighting our natural urges on a daily basis.)?
o From "The Ten Commandments for Women": "4. I WILL SUBMIT TO MY MAN OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM (In the bedroom, you're boss ... your pleasure is first and foremost. But outside the bedroom, let your man be a man. Never put him down in front of other people, even jokingly.) 6. I ACCEPT THAT MY MAN IS A BORN MURDERER AND RAPIST, AND I WILL NOT PROVOKE HIM (Your man is a ticking time bomb. Don't yell at him, nag him, treat him like garbage, etc. A REAL man can take only so much, and could explode at a moment's notice.)"
o One of Dimitri's favorite slogans: "No means maybe"
o On cheating - It's ok for men to cheat, but what about for women?: "However, since it is unhealthy for a man to worship a woman, it follows that being FAITHFUL to her is not healthy for a man. However, for a relationship to be solid, A WOMAN MUST WORSHIP HER MAN. Therefore, FEMALE FAITHFULNESS is MANDATORY."
o Relationship advice for women: "Men always treat their dogs better than their women. Want to be your man?s best friend? Want to receive treats? Want to be caressed passionately? Want to be cuddled? Want your man to feel bad leaving you at home alone? Want to be taken out for daily romantic walks? Then give him dog-like submission!"
o From "Reboot Camp" (a course he teaches): "7.We cover powerful mind-control techniques used to ?break? a belligerent slut in the same way a wild horse is broken, but instead by using subliminal phrases and socially acceptable corporal punishments, such as ass slapping and erotic anal rape. We cover scientifically-proven techniques used to destroy feminist thoughts and behaviours, substituting them with more acceptable thought patterns. 8.You learn how to use a woman?s insecurity to psychologically overpower her and force her to sexually submit. You are taught how to exercise your natural urges legally by ?raping? a woman with your brain rather than your body. And once she is enslaved under your thumb, you learn how to have her beg for more!"
o From "Cult Builder Program" (another course he teaches): "2.We teach only the elite of society the most powerful techniques of psychological and sexual enslavement
His real name is James' Sears. The EYE Weekly article ( http://www.eyeweekly.com/city/features/article/22843 ) talks about him being a former doctor who lost his license due to "sexual impropriety". Now check out this article from CTV News from May 2005, exposing his true identity: http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/1115167462268_11/?hub=CTVNewsAt11
James Sears also has a mortgage company: http://www.trilliummortgage.ca/cmhc2.asp
The crap espoused by Dimitri really doesn't represent your typical PUA. Some of the better regarded PUAs are nearly progressive in their views, and I know a few that are even open about being bisexual (please note the stark contrast here to the juvenile homophobic rant described at the Rancho Relaxo meeting).
I've seen PUAs give a "lair" creeper a dressing-down for perpetuating old lame hetero myths how women "are". Beyond anything I've seen your average guy ever say. Some of these guys seem to actually "get it" and aren't coming to the topic of casual sex with new partners with a barge o' baggage in tow.
Dimitri seems to have latched on to the notion of a "seduction community" as a platform for his personal bullshit, which is a huge insult to fairly normal dudes who aren't wacky misogynists and are more about the positive or self-help aspects of this "scene". Think about it, it's a place where average hetero dudes can talk about sex, admit their weaknesses and failures, and ask a friendly peer group for help with moving past it all. That is not an easy place for a lot of guys to find.
This guy represents the pickup community like Charles Manson represents hippies. He's completely nuts, and should be treated like a sad/dangerous lunatic, and not like a typical member, or leader of the pickup community.
There are a lot of good guys out there in the pickup scene, who are really trying to help awkward guys learn to be better with women, and to find the girl they want. Improving yourself, including your relationships with women, is a noble goal. I feel like what I do is both good for my students, and for the women they date.
Guys like Dimitri make me sick.
Looking forward to it! I've been meaning to visit Honest Ed too (they give out Toronto Sun with your purchases).
Interesting you mentioned the Sun. I saw that Sun article when it came out, and thought it was a fucking rip-off of Japhet's and The Eye's articles. The guy made it sound like he was there, when whole paragraphs of that shit were simply lifted verbatim from the afore-mentioned pieces. I know the Sun is fucking struggling, what with their traditional readership (perpetually outraged blue collar ass-crack flaunting white dudes who live on cheap smokes and coffee and spend all their spare money in strip clubs) having been decimated as a class through the 90's by the very same bullshit neo-con economics that the Sun itself trumpets, but JESUS - They should at least be able to find some better way to make themselves hip and relevant again than through base plagrarization of other people's fucking work.
Anyway, what was my point again?
Ah, fuck it.
He asked me how I felt about that, and I have to say, you really do not seem to know Dimitri very well, because you have not mentioned his OTHER professed proclivities, and I find it hard to believe that knowing about them, you would neglect to mention them.
I will say no more, but be warned.... this guy is likely to get himself in to some real trouble at some point, unless he is lucky enough to have some very high profile friends.
So, to sum it up: Met a "celebrity" = cool!
Got creeped out = excellent! My senses did not decieve me!
Taking showers compulsively = bad. Ran out of Adavan... :)
He enjoys threesomes? So what? He never talked about it at the meeting.
You can find examples of Dimitri using "sock puppets" as they're called at these links.
(See the comments)
http://propagandabust.blog.ca/2008/04/11/seduction-4027917
And a discription of how he did this under another name here
http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/index.php/Josephthelover
Dimiti is 100%, completely full of BS. Also... expect to see him here sometime tomorrow arguing with me :)
only a juvenile idiot would write something so utterly ridiculous.
Grow up, you jealous twit!
He is the most handsome, elegant, refined and yet animalistic man that I have ever encountered.
He approached me on Yonge Street with the line about elegance, and I had intended to keep on walking, but when I looked in to his eyes, I felt my breath taken away.
he is as dark and mysterious as Count Dracula, and yet as handsome and charming as Casanova.
He is the type of man that EVERY woman wants to have/marry, and he is the type of man that every male would undoubtedly like to be, I am sure.
I have never met a man like him before, and I am certain to never meet another like him again.
He is the most exceptional lover on this planet- I do not have any to compare him with, because although I am not a virgin, he is the first man to make love to me, and in so doing, he made me feel like a virgin again..........
He is as captivating as any Prince Charming, as perfect as a man could be.
All of the naysayers out there are obviously suffering from a serious envy complex, as the prior poster to myself mentioned.
Rather than envy him, why don't you sign up for his classes and learn to be like him?
Or, if you are a Dimitri hating woman, why not let him take you home for the night?
You should all be so lucky to ever have such a chance ever again.
I know that I never will.................................
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Tah tah till then!!!!
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For all I know, you could be Dimitri.
An e-mail dialogue followed, complete with a bullshit claim that he an anonymous informant, a request to remove the first name of one of his partners (which we agreed to) a request to remove any mention of OCAD and a suggestion that the piece bordered "on libel".
When I attended his meeting, he offered advice on my attire and facial hair but it wasn't given mockingly, at least as far as I took it. I actually thought he had a point and I referenced that in the article.
I don't have some kind of personal vendetta against Dimitri and this piece has hardly garnered any kind of "fame" for myself. Yep, I'm glancing out of my window and I don't see any admiring hoards. There are no e-mails from fans and I haven't been inundated with job offers.
Jenny and I wrote the piece because we were simultaneously fascinated and repulsed by Dimitri and his "Real Men" meetings. I don't hate the guy but his attempts to misdirect the flow of this comment page are silly and pathetic (just like those e-mails we got).
Every person who defends him has the same writing style. Why do you think this is?
Umm, yes I can.
Dimtri has his hooks in your personal information! As he (James N. Sears) is the same guy that operates The Second Opinion and who has a business partner at Trillium Mortgage, then Dimitri the Lover has access: Through your medical files he has your psych and sex history, and through his business partner he may possibly have access to your financial data. WTF?!!!
Enough already. Call your municipal representative and complain. To contact your city councillor in Toronto go to this link:
http://app.toronto.ca/im/council/councillors.jsp
If you don't live in Toronto, contact your local council member anyway because who knows how far his business reaches? Dimitri's partner at Trillium Mortgage is located in cottage country.
Maybe the Law Society of Upper Canada would like to know how Jame N. Sears is making a mockery of the justice system, too.
http://www.lsuc.on.ca/about/a/contact/
Email the complaints department at comail@lsuc.ca
Below, please find a link to the report that ended James N. Sears medical career where you will see more evidence of a disturbed mind:
The College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario; Discipline
Committee Decisions July/August 1993
http://www.cpso.on.ca/Publications/Discsum/1993/disc93.07.htm#Dr.%20
James%20N.%20Sears
http://www.cpso.on.ca/Publications/Discsum/1993/disc93.07.htm#Dr.%20James%20N.%20Sears
makes for some very entertaining reading:
"Dr. Sears entered a plea of not guilty to a charge of incompetence and to the charge of improperly, using his authority to prescribe.
He pleaded guilty to the charges of sexual impropriety, with three patients but not guilty to two others. He also entered a plea of guilty to one of two charges of disgraceful, dishonourable or unprofessional conduct. "
"During a professional visit to the first female complainant. Dr. Sears made comments to the effect that he would like to get to know her better, that sex was fun and that he would call her later about getting together for a drink. He also pulled her to him and kissed her on the neck The second complainant was visited in her home and, following a clinical evaluation, was asked about her sex life, present commitments and past involvements with married men. Dr. Sears then discussed his unsatisfactory sexual relationship with his wife and asked the patient to date him or to become involved in a sexual relationship with him. She declined both requests."
"Complaining about his wife's lack of interest in sex, he boasted that he could do it 10 times a day. The patient declined his request that they have sex. He then went to the washroom where he admits that he <b>may</b> have masturbated. "
http://hush-doc.livejournal.com/980.html
http://jezebel.com/5020419/dimitri-the-lovers-history-of-sexual-assault-weapons-stockpiling-and-psychiatric-evaluations
http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/
http://digg.com/people/The_Douchiest_Phone_Message_In_History
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c06pinaKl8o
After getting out of a show with my mom (Kids in the Hall), I checked my phone. He left 3 text messages along the same lines as that voice mail in Japhet's comment.
Secondly, I know for a fact that the voicemails he left my friend Olga (which are now everywhere) are totally coincidental to whatever bullshit project he's working on now. It's really unfortunate that this degenerate is getting publicity.
Thirdly, the girl that says she was anally raped needs to press charges. Anyone else who feels like they were in any way abused by him need to go to the police. This guy has some serious issues, and they need to be addressed by the authorities (in my opinion).
He also works for Trillium Mortgage, and his real name is James Sears.
http://www.torontosun.com/News/TorontoAndGTA/2008/06/29/6017096-sun.html
There's a new anti-Dimitri video on YouTube -- it's like the ANONYMOUS campaign against Scientology
http://www.youtube.com/hushupdoc
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By the way, love your blog.
There are just as many disturbed, egotistical manipulative sociopathic guys in "The community" as there are normal, shy, and confused. Too many "pickup guru's" preach what to say and do to get a desired response, instead of being the best person you can be, and LETTING others be attracted to you.
That's why when I take on clients, I make sure to let them know it's all about improving themselves. They cannot MAKE a woman like them, and it is misleading to use lines and bullshit from somebody else to try. You don't have to fake being an interesting, caring and intelligent person if you ARE or are BECOMING one.
Much love
Jeremy (The NSWPB)
That might be what actually happens but I think his ideas on self-improvement are essentially valid.
Then again, I guess that why Sears uses sock puppets and alter egos to express the things that aren't appropriate for James Sears to say. That is, the things that are generally just inappropriate.
This is a great feature piece
Miss Gisele B.
No offense meant to anyone of either sex. I am not a chauvinist or trying to pigeonhole entire genders. I'm just pointing out the obvious that other commenters have already seen. The posts are from Dimitri.
http://groups.google.ca/group/alt.seduction.fast/browse_thread/thread/5088801d804a9a75?hl=en#
Another "cult like" personality in Toronto would be "Johnny Soporno", although he embodies the exact OPPOSITE of Dmitri, he would still make a GREAT article.
Also there's a new facebook group that employs a touch of parody, 'Not Fans of Dimitri the Lover'. The group started the day after he hit White Ribbon (also on facebook).
http://www.flickr.com/photos/christoum/3704411688/
I'm sure treating all girls like sluts really "works".
<b>I'm Gonna Tear Your Playhouse Down</b>-<i>Ann Peebles</i>
You think you've got it all set up,
you think you've got the perfect plan
to charm everyone you see
and playing any game you can.
But I've got news for you,
I hope it don't hit you too hard.
One of these days while you're at play
I'm gonna catch you off guard.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room.
You make our lives a stress and strain
using the power ploy.
All you do is pass around
hearts you use as play toys.
You've been playing madly
with every mind in town.
So what you gonna do when you look up one day
and see your playhouse tumbling down.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room.
You think you've got it all set up,
you think you've got the perfect plan
to charm everyone you see
and playing any game you can.
You've been playing madly
with every mind in town.
Oh, what you gonna do when you look up one day
and see your playhouse tumbling down.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room by room.
(repeat ad lib. & fade)
http://twitter.com/dimitrithelover
Can't afford real marketing? Just post it everywhere online.. I thought companies had to pay to do this..
http://www.youtube.com/user/DimitriTheLoverMovie
I'm going to watch it as a study of the human dark side.
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But maybe you could a little more in the way of content so people could connect with
it better. Certainly you got an awful lot of text for only having one or 2 images.
Maybe you could space it out better?