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Dimitri the Lover Models the "Real Man"

Posted by Japhet / April 5, 2008

dimitri the loverLike any major urban centre, Toronto has its landmarks and attractions; things the visitors are encouraged to see. From opera to architecture we're used to seeing these objects of civic pride measured against other cities knickknacks in the never-ending competition for tourist bucks.

Then there are the activities you don't usually hear about, the ones you can't necessarily enjoy with the entire family. Some are praiseworthy (gay couples from the States coming up here to get married), others leave a distinctly bad taste in my mouth (swinger couples visiting Club Wicked; is that the best we can do?) and a few are really weird (Reg Hartt screenings; more about him later).

Somewhere in between the last two is Dimitri the Lover and his Toronto Real Men meetings. If you don't already know, he is the latest iteration in a long line of pick-up artists (PUA) offering up the secrets of seduction to hapless guys all over the country.

Now, I've read The Game, a book about "the seduction community" by Neil Strauss, a reporter, and I was left with the impression that the ring-leaders are a bunch of vaguely-gothic guys and wannabe-hypnotists, most of them lonely and consequently very controlling. Their websites are, for the most part, slick and well-produced. They seem to be trying really hard and are all about "the sell', whether it comes to hitting on women or flogging their products.

Jenny, a fellow writer at blogTO, had come across his website after finding a flyer he put up along College St. After browsing Dimitri's website, I found myself wondering if he could possibly be serious. Equal parts rambling personal philosophy and shameless self-promotion, its outrageous nature almost managed to overshadow a very comprehensive list of courses, ranging from a $197 Dating Needs Analysis to a personal, one-on-one couching session from Dimitri for $5,997. My favorite was the no expenses spared $97,500 "Cult Builder program" that promises to teach "POWERFUL techniques of psychological and sexual enslavement". Diabolical indeed...

While I wasn't quite expecting some kind of reboot of the Manson Family, I had no idea what to expect. Jenny and I were quite nervous about attending the March meeting of the Toronto Real Men's group. Would they sniff us out immediately or would they be sneaky and expose our agenda through the careful repetition of information-gathering questions?

Jenny: As Japhet and I plotted outside Massimo's about whether we should pretend we're total strangers or friends going into the seduction meeting, we both hushed up when we saw Mr. Lover himself appear at the doorway of Rancho Relaxo. Dressed in black jeans, campers and a black pinstripe sports jacket, he was unmistakable. It was sort of like seeing a celebrity that you only hear about in urban legend horror stories on Don'tdatehimgirl.com But there he was in the flesh, chatting on his cell phone.

Japhet: The intimidating part was how he was checking us out the whole time. I felt like I couldn't talk; he had the kind of gaze that zeros in you and makes you feel like he's hearing every single word you say.

Eventually, we introduced ourselves and it was like a switch turned on as he suddenly became the warm, welcoming host. He asked both of us three or four questions but never quite let us finish, preferring to draw his own conclusions in a way that kept us off-balance.

We'd agreed that we weren't going to lie unless absolutely necessary but I was definitely on my guard.

Jenny: Dimitri led Japhet and I upstairs to the bar where he introduced us to several other guys on the prowl. In total, there were 15 of them, ranging in age from their early-20s to mid-40s. I thought they could smell a rat a mile away and maybe some did - by the sheer sight of me - but Dimitri was very welcoming. I was officially the first (bisexual) girl there in the history of Toronto Real Men meetings.

Japhet: While we were being processed by Dimitri's right-hand man and trusty sidekick, he casually talked about keeping "faggots" out of the meeting, an unusual response considering that no gay man would ever try to pick up in an environment like this. Their language throughout the meeting on the topic of homosexuality was strangely stiff; I can't remember the last time I heard someone talk about "the gays".

Apparently, there were supposed to be feminist protesters but they didn't show up. Dimitri had been hoping for picketing and signs and joked that he was disappointed.

Like Jenny said, the 15 guys were mostly young, with two-thirds of them coming across as just socially-awkward with the others being total creeps. Besides his sidekick, there were four regulars who seemed to only show up to be yes-men for their fearless leader. Dimitri, for his part, managed to walk the line between getting the newcomers to open up and sharing jokes about them with his cronies. Jenny and I had little in common with these guys but we still passed, whether it was because Dimitri was all-too happy to have a bigger audience or he just didn't care.

Some of the shy ones came across as genuinely-nice guys who really had no idea how to talk to women and were looking for real help. Since I didn't talk with any of them personally, I can't say whether they actually took any of his advice to heart or not.

A couple of them couldn't get past the seemingly-insurmountable block of actually approaching women they wanted to talk to; a problem that Dimitri admitted he couldn't help them with seeing as his modus operandi mostly pertained to what they could do after the initial approach.

He did seem to have trouble relating to East and West Indian fellows, frequently telling them that a particular bit of advice he'd just given the group "wouldn't work for them", implying that their accent or cultural differences somehow precluded them from being able to employ it without comedic effect.

Jenny: "Those OCAD girls...go after the punky ones," he said. "They're all bi, by the way. You go up to them and say you're one of the most elegant women I've ever seen. Even if they're punked up, their fucking minds are blown because they're not used to being called elegant. They'll do almost anything after that. This girl C. - she wanted me to be her daddy - because she wants to be daddy's little cum-dumpster. C'mon, man, that's a big turn-on for a guy! I saw her walking on Bloor Street, she was smoking a joint, she was walking around. Little fucking slut. Great in bed."

I'm glad I prepared myself for this by watching Magnolia. Dimitri is without a doubt the Frank T.J. Mackey of T.O.

Japhet: Yeah, I've never met Ross Jeffries but he has some strong competition here. At one point Dimitri showed us the address book on his phone that was full of women he was involved with in various stages.

Jenny: Dimitri read off a list of "slut" conquests separated by numbers beside each name. If the name had a one, it meant he'd call them again for sex; two meant maybe and three signified a "dump list."

"After I make love to a woman, if she's worth keeping around and we become friends, I take the one out from in front of the number and she becomes part of the normal phone list," he said. "These ones have a number in front of them which means they're on the slut list at the top."

Japhet: I love how he got that text message from one of them during the meeting!

Jenny: It was from a woman he picked up at a North York mall.

"After I banged her, I wanted her to eat pussy, but she wouldn't go for it, man," he told the crowd matter-of-factly. "I drove up to Newmarket to get laid in a snowstorm because she was hot. It took 45 minutes to get up there, a half hour to warm her up, an hour to service her and a half hour so she didn't feel like she was used."

The guys laughed. I had this cringing smile on my face.

"Jenny, is this too much testosterone for you?" Dimitri laughed.

Testosterone, I can handle. Lack of respect towards women - less so.

Japhet: It got even better when he was enumerating on the all of the great places to pick up women and he asked us what big event was happening in the city this week.

Jenny: That guy in the audience made a joke about, "Two-for-one special at the abortion clinic?"

Japhet: He was definitely one of the heavy-duty creeps. Who says shit like that and thinks its funny? Worse yet, how come every guy in there laughed? Dmitri talked about being a gentleman but then why wouldn't he admonish the guy for going too far?

Jenny: Some of Dimitri's advice seemed to make sense - chocolates, cockiness mixed with humor will catch a woman's attention, giving compliments, etc. - but the way he delivered it bordered on Paul Bernardo predatory.

Japhet: That's funny considering how he said that women in the 416 area code think men are all Paul Bernardo until proven otherwise. He did give off a bit of that vibe though... Let's see, there was:

Lack of Empathy (" A straight woman loves it when a straight guy treats her like a whore.")

Inability to Form Close Relationships ("I don't have friends.")

Inflated Self-Appraisal ("I can get away with that kind of thing.")

Superficial Charm ("You're one of the most elegant women I've ever seen.")

And that's just off the top of my head! He was really good at interrogating people though. When I was recounting a story, he kept on interrupting me, asking specific questions that prevented me from the shaping the flow of my narrative and allowed him to give his own conclusions precedence over mine.

I've never been questioned like that before but I will admit that some of what he said was genuinely good advice. Mind you, we're talking the kind of thing you could pick up in a $4 magazine but it wasn't all cheesy pick-up lines and sexed-up job descriptions.

Yeah, he's probably right that you'll have a better chance picking up at a grocery store than a club. He's also right about white socks and black pants as well but do we really need to pay someone to hear this?

My problem with a lot of what he said lies in the essentially contradictory nature of many of his asides and jokes when stacked up next to his "good intentions" and, of course, that website of his; the elephant in the room. Dimitri can claim that it's merely to get attention but that's a seriously immature and offensive approach to a fundamental problem some men have in relating to women. I find it very difficult to reconcile this impulsive misogynist with his earnest performance of an open, fun-loving pervert.

Jenny: A few days later, I E-mail him asking if he could provide his real name and he figured out with his 170 IQ that I was writing an article.

"I have no issues with cooperating in the writing of an article in that the Toronto Real Men have nothing to hide," he wrote.

"For the personal safety of women I seduced and mentioned at the meeting, please do not go into specifics that could identify them. It is not for me, but I would feel awful if one of your perv readers stalked any of them."

Puh-lease. It certainly has nothing to do with any of the women who are now on his "slut list" finding out in a public forum. Right? Sure. After all, one piece of advice Dimitri the Lover gives to his male worshippers is to never lie for the sake of getting laid.

Japhet: In the section amusingly titled Observations on Life, Dimitri talks about how it's "acceptable for a man to cheat sexually on a woman if she is cheating emotionally on him". How is this honest? How does this even begin to fall in line with any kind of relational framework around polyamory?

In conversations with friends about Dimitri, I heard all sorts of stories. The posters he'd put up also went side-by-side with an online campaign conducted on Livejournal and Lavalife back in 2005. Using exactly the same wording on his posters, these posts had the added attraction of an immediate response from outraged viewers. While I was unable to find much of any information still being archived, one can only imagine the gist of the exchange which probably involved a lot of name-calling.

One of my favorite stories came from a friend of mine who was approached by Dimitri on Bloor St. West. Before being told what he said to her, I was able to recite it back to her!

Jenny: Perhaps the Dan Savage 'campsite rule' can be applied here -- to leave the person you slept with in better condition than which you found her.

"I told my ex I wouldn't give her anal till I proposed," he told the guys. "You cannot believe how romantic she thought that was, that I wouldn't fuck her up the ass until I proposed. I wanted to save it. You might think that's fucking sick. She thought it was perverse, but romantic."

By the sounds of this Greek lover, that's as romantic as it gets. What more could a woman ask for?

Japhet: Dimitri also claimed that Reg Hartt, of Cineforum fame, had really liked his posters and helped put them up. After hearing stories of Mr. Hartt's eerily similar cult-of-personality, complete with impressionable film students living in his house/commune, I can believe it. Who else is going to openly support this kind of thing? I'm surprised Rancho Relaxo isn't having second thoughts.

However, unlike many of Dimitri's more strident opponents, I don't believe he'll have any lasting impact on Toronto or be part of some kind of backwards progression in the psychology of men. He's simply too "out there" to reel in the casual consumer and his antagonistic, low-budget advertising reeks of desperation.

While he may play the alpha wolf in person, there are far too many warning signs for the average guy looking for a confidence boost. I would hazard a guess that many first-time attendees are scared off while the hardcore crowd sticks around in order to have a forum to regurgitate their hateful speech.

So while I encourage anyone sufficiently outraged by Dimitri and his "real men" to let them know exactly how you feel, this kind of thing, like the KKK and Scientology, has no future.

Discussion

130 Comments

Jennifer Louise / April 5, 2008 at 10:00 am
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This was an amazing article, I loved it! I always wondered what those men do.

Also, my first few months at UofT, I thought Reg Hartt was some uber-Christian guy trying to lure people to his place to convert them because his posters were that fucked up.
Mercurial Georgia / April 5, 2008 at 10:24 am
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Oh wow, at least he managed to make me laugh, but I'm most definitely laughing at him, not even his antics, but HIM.

//"I told my ex I wouldn't give her anal till I proposed," he told the guys//

Considering the structure of the sentence, it sounded like Dimitri was saying that he wouldn't give up /his ass/ to her until he propose, in a "not on the first date" kinda way. If he meant it the other way around, he should have said, "have her anally".

I saw those posters around my campus, it's gross because while we have a lot of adult students, I once met a most charming old lady in an environmental class...most of the students are in their 20s and under, and those creeps really sound like a combo of Paul Bernado and that guy who stalked and killed Taylor Behl.

My advice is, since those guys are so insecure, if they hit on you, explain that they are too straight for you because you like to wear strap-ons. Though didn't Dimitri advocate submitting to women in bed? What if the girl want to watch some m/m?

Jenny / April 5, 2008 at 10:50 am
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Here are some comments I found about Dimitri on LiveJournal after the EYE story was published:

http://community.livejournal.com/toronto/6710033.html
Equalizer / April 5, 2008 at 11:19 am
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Ha, I remember reading his "hyper-alpha male" (as he was labelled) antics years ago on one of his stomping grounds...the tor.eat group. All the evidence is still there if you do a search and I believe in his later years there it seems he ran into some sort of legal trouble for his antics with women. I don't look up to a guy like this for advice on women though; how hard is it for a "tall, dark, handsome" guy to attract women in T.O. Try doing the same while being the object of women's indifference in this city for being short then I'll give you some respect.
SabrinaJBall / April 5, 2008 at 12:18 pm
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The most extreme homophobia is always found among tightly-knit groups of men, who must deny any sexual component to their bonding. It's the same reason men in groups cat-call women on the streets.

A lot of this man's behaviors point to symptoms of painfully repressed, latent homosexuality. The bit about the sacred/virginal wedding night anal sex is particularly rich!
heather / April 5, 2008 at 01:03 pm
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http://www.eyeweekly.com/city/features/article/22843

apparently he also lost his medical liscence for hitting on patients....and then blamed it on his ex-wife...

what is more disturbing are the responses to this eye weekly article at the bottom.
Kumar "Black Sabbath" O'Malley / April 5, 2008 at 01:18 pm
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Can you get me Dmitri's contact info? I'm thinking he can help me set up my Roofie lab, or at least give me a pep talk to make me feel better about my compulsive bed wetting, fire starting, and small animal torture.
Mercurial Georgia / April 5, 2008 at 01:41 pm
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re: heather

Oh cheer up, I just read the comments, and they are obviously made by dimitri himself under different instant alias. He's doing the same thing in the Toronto community under the newly registered account, lovemind.

If he just wants to bang-bang-bang, and not be rejected by the actual people he harass over and over again, he should really cruise for these places with gloryhole features...

...and he should try craiglist. Or sit on the side of the road, and carry a giant sign saying he's available for sex with women interested. That would be great because it'll be none-intrusive. The actual approach (or invitation to approach) is great, when done right, but he's Doing It Wrong, and it's annoying how he could annoys women so much, those that do want one-night-stands with the right people are now out of mood.
Mercurial Georgia / April 5, 2008 at 01:50 pm
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...and to milk the lolcow some moar;

His other alias is Josephthelover;
http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Josephthelover
"Josephthelover, the world's second worse sock puppeteer"
Trey / April 5, 2008 at 06:51 pm
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Now this is writing. Great article
Equalizer / April 6, 2008 at 04:04 am
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Exactly Sabrina. This also coincides with what I've thought all along with regards to tightly-knit groups of women who cat-call and stare down men when they are in large groups, talk about us in ways that would make us blush, and deny masturbation when queried. It is all just a coverup for their lesbian angst.
Japhet / April 6, 2008 at 05:03 am
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I was wondering how long it would take for Dimitri to post a response.
SabrinaJBall / April 6, 2008 at 02:48 pm
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Yo Equalizer, thanks for the laugh buddy! at you instead of with you, but a laugh all the same.
Jenny Block / April 6, 2008 at 04:18 pm
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Wow. This is insane. Thank you so much for this. I really enjoyed reading it and I am so glad I stumbled upon it!

Best,
Jenny Block
Author of "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage"
www.jennyonthepage.com
Serb / April 6, 2008 at 05:31 pm
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Interesting article & viewpoint.

I guess it's just a matter of some people here not being comfortable with other people's views on the world, eh?

I mean, sure, they might be contradictory to what you've been used to hearing all these years, but hey, they work for people voicing them out, and if they seem happy with it and people in their life seem happy with it, who are you to complain about that, really?

I'm not taking any sides, just wondering...

Cheers!

www.ArtOfDating.com
Japhet / April 6, 2008 at 10:49 pm
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http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/sha/618443572.html

Toronto Real Men is looking for a new home...No more Rancho Relaxo!
Chris / April 7, 2008 at 08:28 am
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Hahahaha "seduction lair meetings". Are they trying to make themselves sound like cave-dwelling troglodytes or does it just come out naturally?

Dimitri sounds like that affable loser in high school that would always hopelessly flirt outrageously with girls way above his station and then have them laugh in embarrassment as a response. I guess over time they lose the affability and take on a lot of intense arrogance.
Chris / April 7, 2008 at 08:33 am
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Oh, and I agree, this was an amazing article. TnO is definitely the best thing about blogto.
Japhet / April 7, 2008 at 01:41 pm
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Serb, his viewpoint is fucked. Did you actually read his website?

Whether Dimitri and the people he meets are happy or not is irrelevant. He is expressing a viewpoint that has an overall negative impact on society. While there might be personal gain for him (and for some people he associates with) he is part of a negative trend and I could not in good conscience let him do what he does without offering my two cents.

You wanna go to Dimitri's meetings? Fine. Google him and read what's he's put up there. Then, read my article, <a href="http://www.eyeweekly.com/city/features/article/22843"; target="_blank">Alex's article in Eye</a> and the responses of the Toronto, <a href="http://community.livejournal.com/toronto/6710033.html"; target="_blank">Livejournal community</a> as well as the <a href="http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Josephthelover"; target="_blank">Encyclopedia Dramatica entry</a>.

If you still think he's on the level, go to his meetings and enjoy yourself. I really don't give a shit 'cos I know most rational people would totally reject his viewpoint.
Equalizer / April 8, 2008 at 02:10 am
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As long as communities are non-existent and dysfunctional, and the general population frigid, hollow, and superficial, people like Dimitri will always garner attention to their views. I'm not encouraging or vouching for someone who sees women as depositories--excuse my imagery--but this has to be a symptom of a bigger problem. As a woman, your labia makes social networking a basic staple taken for granted instead of a luxury where you are always on the outside looking in--these are the type of guys I foresee going to these meetings. I don't see the average guy in Toronto looking to bed numerous women, but at their wit's end trying to even meet one woman in this city. Just look at the staggering amount of dating sites in existence and an escort market that seems to be growing by leaps and bounds every year (admittedly thanks in part to Americans).
Japhet / April 8, 2008 at 02:15 am
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You average dating site (or even your average PUA) does not come close to approaching just how FUCKED Dimitri is.
Harmony / April 8, 2008 at 11:57 am
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QUOTES FROM DIMITRI'S WEBSITE:


o ""Anal rape" administered on one?s spouse or girlfriend as a form of punishment when she has displayed a bad attitude, has a virtually 100% success rate in correcting the problem. Also, if your woman submits to the occasional firm ass fucking, you will have complete control over her, guaranteed."

o From "Ten Commandments for Men": ?5. I WILL NOT BEAT MY WOMAN (I am not referring to a single slap or a spanking because your woman has been running at the mouth for a half hour non-stop ... I am referring to beating.) 7. I ACCEPT THAT I AM A BORN MURDERER AND RAPIST (You all know you are. You know that nature has bred it into you. The only thing preventing you from acting on your desires is fear of incarceration. When a man says "I'm going to kill my boss", in the natural world, the boss would be dead. When a woman is bending over to pick up a roast at the grocery store meat department, in the natural world, you'd be lifting up her skirt, pulling down her panties, and pounding her full of tube steak. We are fighting our natural urges on a daily basis.)?

o From "The Ten Commandments for Women": "4. I WILL SUBMIT TO MY MAN OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM (In the bedroom, you're boss ... your pleasure is first and foremost. But outside the bedroom, let your man be a man. Never put him down in front of other people, even jokingly.) 6. I ACCEPT THAT MY MAN IS A BORN MURDERER AND RAPIST, AND I WILL NOT PROVOKE HIM (Your man is a ticking time bomb. Don't yell at him, nag him, treat him like garbage, etc. A REAL man can take only so much, and could explode at a moment's notice.)"

o One of Dimitri's favorite slogans: "No means maybe"

o On cheating - It's ok for men to cheat, but what about for women?: "However, since it is unhealthy for a man to worship a woman, it follows that being FAITHFUL to her is not healthy for a man. However, for a relationship to be solid, A WOMAN MUST WORSHIP HER MAN. Therefore, FEMALE FAITHFULNESS is MANDATORY."

o Relationship advice for women: "Men always treat their dogs better than their women. Want to be your man?s best friend? Want to receive treats? Want to be caressed passionately? Want to be cuddled? Want your man to feel bad leaving you at home alone? Want to be taken out for daily romantic walks? Then give him dog-like submission!"

o From "Reboot Camp" (a course he teaches): "7.We cover powerful mind-control techniques used to ?break? a belligerent slut in the same way a wild horse is broken, but instead by using subliminal phrases and socially acceptable corporal punishments, such as ass slapping and erotic anal rape. We cover scientifically-proven techniques used to destroy feminist thoughts and behaviours, substituting them with more acceptable thought patterns. 8.You learn how to use a woman?s insecurity to psychologically overpower her and force her to sexually submit. You are taught how to exercise your natural urges legally by ?raping? a woman with your brain rather than your body. And once she is enslaved under your thumb, you learn how to have her beg for more!"

o From "Cult Builder Program" (another course he teaches): "2.We teach only the elite of society the most powerful techniques of psychological and sexual enslavement
Harmony / April 8, 2008 at 12:00 pm
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FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO FIND DIMITRI


His real name is James' Sears. The EYE Weekly article ( http://www.eyeweekly.com/city/features/article/22843 ) talks about him being a former doctor who lost his license due to "sexual impropriety". Now check out this article from CTV News from May 2005, exposing his true identity: http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/1115167462268_11/?hub=CTVNewsAt11

James Sears also has a mortgage company: http://www.trilliummortgage.ca/cmhc2.asp
L.L. / April 8, 2008 at 04:56 pm
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Yikes! This whack job Dimitri dated an acquaintance of mine and was psycho beyond all belief. I met the freak at a coffee shop when she and her mom were in town (yes, he had a long distance relationship- the only kind he apparantly can have with his cadre of idiots) and he was SO INCREDIBLY RUDE, self-centered, psychotic and pathetic that it was scary. Fabulous impression he was trying to make on my pal's mom- saying she needed a "deaf boyfriend so that he wouldn't have to hear her bla bla bla all day long." Just the kind of guy you want to bring home to mama. Loser.
dkshds / April 8, 2008 at 06:21 pm
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For the record, and this truly needs to be said:

The crap espoused by Dimitri really doesn't represent your typical PUA. Some of the better regarded PUAs are nearly progressive in their views, and I know a few that are even open about being bisexual (please note the stark contrast here to the juvenile homophobic rant described at the Rancho Relaxo meeting).

I've seen PUAs give a "lair" creeper a dressing-down for perpetuating old lame hetero myths how women "are". Beyond anything I've seen your average guy ever say. Some of these guys seem to actually "get it" and aren't coming to the topic of casual sex with new partners with a barge o' baggage in tow.

Dimitri seems to have latched on to the notion of a "seduction community" as a platform for his personal bullshit, which is a huge insult to fairly normal dudes who aren't wacky misogynists and are more about the positive or self-help aspects of this "scene". Think about it, it's a place where average hetero dudes can talk about sex, admit their weaknesses and failures, and ask a friendly peer group for help with moving past it all. That is not an easy place for a lot of guys to find.
Japhet / April 9, 2008 at 03:07 am
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Sounds good to me. At least four of the guys at the meeting seemed to be looking for that kind of thing.
Chris / April 9, 2008 at 09:19 pm
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Looking at this guy's site, and reading your article, it seems pretty clear that this Dimitri guy is insane. Like he's seriously bipolar or sociopathic or something.

This guy represents the pickup community like Charles Manson represents hippies. He's completely nuts, and should be treated like a sad/dangerous lunatic, and not like a typical member, or leader of the pickup community.

There are a lot of good guys out there in the pickup scene, who are really trying to help awkward guys learn to be better with women, and to find the girl they want. Improving yourself, including your relationships with women, is a noble goal. I feel like what I do is both good for my students, and for the women they date.

Guys like Dimitri make me sick.
jenny / April 10, 2008 at 11:42 am
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Just a heads up to everyone interested in an investigative article on Dimitri the Lover that mine is scheduled for print this Sunday in the Toronto Sun.
Mercurial Georgia / April 11, 2008 at 07:57 am
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re: Jenny

Looking forward to it! I've been meaning to visit Honest Ed too (they give out Toronto Sun with your purchases).
Kumar "Black Sabbath" O'Malley / April 15, 2008 at 08:03 pm
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Jenny:

Interesting you mentioned the Sun. I saw that Sun article when it came out, and thought it was a fucking rip-off of Japhet's and The Eye's articles. The guy made it sound like he was there, when whole paragraphs of that shit were simply lifted verbatim from the afore-mentioned pieces. I know the Sun is fucking struggling, what with their traditional readership (perpetually outraged blue collar ass-crack flaunting white dudes who live on cheap smokes and coffee and spend all their spare money in strip clubs) having been decimated as a class through the 90's by the very same bullshit neo-con economics that the Sun itself trumpets, but JESUS - They should at least be able to find some better way to make themselves hip and relevant again than through base plagrarization of other people's fucking work.

Anyway, what was my point again?

Ah, fuck it.
Japhet / April 15, 2008 at 09:04 pm
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Jenny wrote that article and cowrote this one with me.
Maid / April 16, 2008 at 02:21 pm
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I actually went out with this whackjob.. once... connected thru lavalife.. he called me up and basically talked me into meeting him that afternoon.. we went for coffee.. it was a nightmare.. the most aggressive, egotistical, offensive disgusting individual I've ever met.. between pretty much pawing at me and telling me how he'd rape women all the time if it wasn't illegal and basically trying to make me his 'bitch' I was horrified, and actually afraid. Seriously.. by the time I got home, I had to have a shower. I felt violated. He called a few times after that until I told him to stop calling, I wasn't interested in his brand of the crazy.
Anonymous / April 18, 2008 at 07:22 pm
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Well, I just met Dimitri last night, and I have to say that this article threw me for a loop when I read the part about the hating of 'faggots,' because Dimitri told me that he likes to suck men's 'c*&^', and he likes to have threesomes with two guys and a girl, and lick the male's ejaculate out of the female's orifice.
He asked me how I felt about that, and I have to say, you really do not seem to know Dimitri very well, because you have not mentioned his OTHER professed proclivities, and I find it hard to believe that knowing about them, you would neglect to mention them.
I will say no more, but be warned.... this guy is likely to get himself in to some real trouble at some point, unless he is lucky enough to have some very high profile friends.

Triss / April 20, 2008 at 11:49 am
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I wonder what would happen to Dimitri's "success" without his impressive height + square face. He approached me the other day as I was waiting for my lover outside Tim Horton's and told me that I "have a look about me" and that he'd make "so much more out of me". I told him, politely, that my roster was full. He noticed my collar, identified me as a "slave" (his knowledge of BDSM is that limted) and told me to obtain permission from my Master (why not Mistress???) to sleep with him and his bisexual girlfriend(s). Then my lover finally came and rescued me and told me about DTL, whom he recognized for some reason.
So, to sum it up: Met a "celebrity" = cool!
Got creeped out = excellent! My senses did not decieve me!
Taking showers compulsively = bad. Ran out of Adavan... :)
Tracey / April 20, 2008 at 02:30 pm
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I was approached by "Dimitri The Lover" 2 months ago while standing outside a coffee shop chatting on my cell phone. My man had been neglecting me sexually for weeks due to work, and I guess I was giving off some sort of a "vibe". Anyway, you are right about Dimitri's look ... tall, dark, and handsome (more in an interesting rather than classical way). He definitely would not get away with his forwardness without those hollywood good looks. He kind of looks like Patrick Dempsey in person. I would suspect that a lot of his "seduction courses" rely on the men having good looks, otherwise, they would be wasting their money. The day we met we had an impromptu coffee, then went back to his place within a couple of hours of meeting, and made love into the wee hours of the morning. Dimitri is by far best lover I have ever had; dirty, attentive, and sensual. But the next day I felt terrible cheating on my boyfriend, so I erased Dimitri's number and asked him not to call me again (which he has respected to this day). However, I cannot stop thinking about him, and whenever my boyfriend gets around to making love to me, I close my eyes and imagine it is Dimitri. I feel very guilty about this. I just can't get Dimitri out of my mind! There is something darkly alluring about the guy. He's like a fucking disease. Another thing--I was getting sore after a couple of hours of making love, so Dimitri asked if he could invite a female friend over to join us and "assist in the sexual workload". I thought to myself "what fucking gall". I felt offended and hurt, but simultaneously aroused. I respectfully declined his offer, but it intimidated me greatly. Anyway, that's my Dimitri story.
Tracey / April 20, 2008 at 02:58 pm
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One question for Triss: according to Dimitri The Lover's web site, women who were either abused in childhood or adulthood by a man, display something he calls a "Positive Dimitri Response", which causes them to be "creeped out" by merely coming in contact with him. Tell me honestly--have you ever been sexually, physically, or emotionally abused by a man any time during your life? I never have been, so Dimitri never "creeped me out". What is your story? I am really curious to know if Dimitri's "theory" has any basis.
Karen / April 20, 2008 at 05:39 pm
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Tracey: I also cheated on my boyfriend with "Dimitri The Lover", about 2 years ago. We met while I was walking on Yonge Street, just north of Eglinton. He approached me, called me an "elegant creature", kissed my hand, and I melted! He helped me carry my bags back to my place. I called him a couple of days later to meet. The effect on my psyche was very similar to that on yours--Dimitri was such an attentive lover, also by far the best I have ever had, and as such ruined my ability to enjoy my boyfriend sexually, because thereafter I just looked at my boyfriend as inadequate. Maybe because Dimitri's a physician he knows how to pleasure better. Anyway, I remember that after we made love, I lay in bed resting (like you, he also wore me out), and Dimitri brought me chocolates and cranberry juice. I experienced amazing oral, the most obscene "dirty talk" I've ever heard, had my ass licked for the first time ever (I loved it!), and felt like a complete woman for the first time in a long time. My boyfriend was just not that romantic, hated oral, and wouldn't put his tongue anywhere near my ass. Within 2 months of my experiencing Dimitri, the relationship was over. I have blamed Dimitri up until now, but after reading other women's comments, and carefully perusing the recent articles and the radio interview on his web site, I am going to reconnect with Dimitri. I am through feeling sorry for myself. I have to accept that my ex-boyfriend was a lousy, selfish lover and Dimitri was just at the right place at the right time. Thanks for sharing your experience, Tracey.
Japhet / April 20, 2008 at 07:31 pm
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The use of the term "faggot" or other homophobic speech does not preclude someone from participating in homosexual activity .

He enjoys threesomes? So what? He never talked about it at the meeting.
Hahahah / April 21, 2008 at 12:09 am
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Dimitri has a long history of going online and posting FAKE stories pretending to be women.

You can find examples of Dimitri using "sock puppets" as they're called at these links.

(See the comments)

http://propagandabust.blog.ca/2008/04/11/seduction-4027917

And a discription of how he did this under another name here

http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/index.php/Josephthelover

Dimiti is 100%, completely full of BS. Also... expect to see him here sometime tomorrow arguing with me :)

Japhet / April 21, 2008 at 02:22 am
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Sometimes I love the internet...
dsdsda / April 21, 2008 at 04:08 pm
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It's pretty clear that these are sock puppet BS stories, because it utterly beggars belief that two otherwise intelligent, unrelated Toronto women would in quick succession use the phrase "made love" to describe random hook-up fuckfests of the lowest order. They also read too alike (one wonders how far this cookie-cutter mentality goes, at that). Dimitri: pretty weak, dude.
megan / April 24, 2008 at 03:25 pm
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I just wanted to post to say that the idiot above who said that Dimitri is gay is obviously an immature 'feminist type' or a spurned 'wannabe lover' of Dimitri's, because Dimitri is 100% man....................................................
only a juvenile idiot would write something so utterly ridiculous.
Grow up, you jealous twit!
Michelle Lynne / April 24, 2008 at 03:33 pm
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Dimitri the lover is the most captivating soul that I have ever met in my entire life on this planet.
He is the most handsome, elegant, refined and yet animalistic man that I have ever encountered.

He approached me on Yonge Street with the line about elegance, and I had intended to keep on walking, but when I looked in to his eyes, I felt my breath taken away.

he is as dark and mysterious as Count Dracula, and yet as handsome and charming as Casanova.
He is the type of man that EVERY woman wants to have/marry, and he is the type of man that every male would undoubtedly like to be, I am sure.


I have never met a man like him before, and I am certain to never meet another like him again.

He is the most exceptional lover on this planet- I do not have any to compare him with, because although I am not a virgin, he is the first man to make love to me, and in so doing, he made me feel like a virgin again..........

He is as captivating as any Prince Charming, as perfect as a man could be.

All of the naysayers out there are obviously suffering from a serious envy complex, as the prior poster to myself mentioned.
Rather than envy him, why don't you sign up for his classes and learn to be like him?
Or, if you are a Dimitri hating woman, why not let him take you home for the night?
You should all be so lucky to ever have such a chance ever again.
I know that I never will.................................


xoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxo
Japhet / April 24, 2008 at 03:38 pm
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Really, who uses the phrase "make love" anymore but R. Kelly?
Michelle Lynne / April 24, 2008 at 03:39 pm
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P.s If anyone would like to verify whether or not I am a real live woman, feel free to contact me at MishelleWhite1@hotmail.com for contact possibilities and verification... or, come to the next 'Real Men' meeting on May 14th, because I will probably be there to talk about my experience in meeting him.


Tah tah till then!!!!

xoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoooxoxooxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxox
subzero / May 8, 2008 at 11:17 am
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I too have wondered about the homophobic tyrades since he also wanted me to help him seduce male lovers so that he could suck their c@ck. And he was dying to make out with other guys during a threesome. He also claims to enjoy anal penetration by another man. I was seduced in exactly the same way that the others have listed. He anally raped me, kept wanting me to tell him I loved him - couldn't do it- and told me he could get me to say yes to marrying him. lol. The rape scared the hell out of me. Thought he'd pull a Bernardo and kill me. But then he showed extreme tenderness and affection and it definitely is a strong mind fu@k. He is a master manipulator but much as I hate to give him any credit, a really good lover. He wanted me to be his "top slut" an honour which clearly I didn't quite appreciate. Given his apparently high IQ, it seems a shame that he is completely incapable of having an interesting conversation about anything other than sex. Basically, I feel sorry for this dude. Lonely, consumed by his singular, shallow compulsion and desperate for validation. In a wide world of things to discover and learn, he's still only facinated by his peepee. Really so sad.
Wandering Bush / May 11, 2008 at 06:04 pm
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The truth about "Dimitri The Lover" is actually even more disturbing than what you have mentioned, subzero. Like you, I was put through a battery of questions regarding what type of sexual behaviour I would partake in ... other women, groups of men (both straight and bisexual), animals, simulated gang rape, etc. Dimitri even attested to partake in oral with men during group situations, but denied any anal (I believe it because he is not into having his ass fingered). When he saw from my eyes that the idea of doing two bisexual men really turned me on, he kept going. Right after we chatted about my sexual desires for the first time, he had to immediately excuse himself to "check his e-mail". I did not think anything of this and I beleived all of it until a few weeks later I discovered something that made me livid. I asked to use his computer one day in order to reply to an e-mail from my boyfriend (yah, I'm a big slut). When I sat down and moved the mouse I discovered an excel spreadsheet on his computer which he had accidently left open. It had a massive tally of responses to every type of fantasy imaginable, with scores ranging from 1-10 regarding strength of desire. There were other notations and numbers which I only briefly glanced at. There were just over 200 women noted. In other words, the asshole was treating me like a guinea pig, conducting research into sexual fantasy and response. I immediately got clothed then stormed into the bedroom and confronted him. He admitted that other than 3-ways with women and the odd gangbang, he was not into much else! He said that his research "did not preclude us from having a loving relationship". I stormed out of his apartment in tears, feeling used and abused. The sad thing is that I really liked the guy ... a lot! and like you, I found him to be an incredible lover. He is actually very sweet and in my humble opinion, completely safe (I think your Paul Bernardo analogy is a little over the top). However, his years of objectifying women has led to him viewing all women other than the ones he falls in love with as just lab rats. Typical Madonna Whore Complex. I believe that he has had hundreds of lovers and women fall in love with him very easily (you probably got the erotic massages, sweet kisses, great oral, breakfast in bed, etc.). However, I gather that he is straight as an arrow, and merely uses homoerotic, beastiality, or other types of non-mainstream fantasies to elicit responses in his lovers. The pathetic thing about all this--I stumbled on this blog because I have not stopped thinking about him since the incident about two years ago, and wanted to track him down. No other relationship has ever matched what I had with him for those brief few weeks. None. I feel like such a loser.
Subzero / May 12, 2008 at 11:16 am
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Don't feel like a loser. Dimitri is a master at his craft. The only time I felt truly terrified, was when I met him and had sex with him instantly. (Yes, there's a lot of us big sluts out there). Then when he told me he was going to stick his dick in my ass, I begged him not to. And without a condom! I was freaking!! And I realized the stupidity of the situation I got myself into. In the appartment of a complete stranger. Then he pinned me down and raped me - while I kept screaming he just told me to shut up. That's when I was terrified. And I felt that I deserved what I got for being there in the first place. After he almost was bragging - I just raped you! And because of my state of mind I accepted his tenderness afterwards. He has a very strange ability to mindfuck. Perhaps all of his "research" has paid off. And, he has a strange quirky charm. I do agree that I think he is by and large harmless (though I don't think all women would respond to being raped in the same way). But then again, what's harmless? Sleeping with over 500 hundred women without a condom? Raping women? Running a TorontoRealMen club that advocates anal rape? Using women and then joking about how much time he had to spend so they didn't feel used when they were? Losing his medical license for sexually harassing his patients - see Toronto sun article or for the facts, the Ontario College of Physicians website - under disciplinary actions? The articles will help you track him down if that's what you want. But before you do, just realize he may be a good lover, but relationship? Have you ever been around him in public? See above by L.L. April 8 - believe me, this person was NOT exagerating. I've experience the humiliation first hand. And he does suffer from a series of mental conditions - outlined in the medical hearing findings. I feel your pain sister, but for your own good - move on! He is extremely intelligent and bent. He knows and has studied exactly how to get what he wants. Loving relationship? Or does he use that angle to create trust so he can get you to submit to his desires? He used the love thing on me too - probably around the same time period that you were hearing it. I will tell you, it did not keep him from f@cking countless others at the same time - telling them the same? I dunno. For your own good, find closure, and move on!!!! Best of luck Wandering Bush.
firewoman / May 12, 2008 at 02:26 pm
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I am confused, subzero. I was also seduced by Dimitri a couple of years ago. Anything that I refused to do, he respected. It took him a good hour to convince me to have intercourse (the man is smooth, I must admit). Absolutely no force was ever used. He massaged me, gave me chocolates, talked dirty, etc., to get me in the mood. However, you claim that Dimitri "anally raped" you. Yet you also state that Dimitri is "harmless" and that you were "mind fucked" and "seduced". I imagine that if Dimitri was going around actually raping women, he would have gotten into trouble with the law at some point in his life. Are you sure that during your "sexual questionnaire" you did not state that you had fantasies about dominant men or forced sex, and that you and he were merely "role playing" and perhaps you had regrets after the fact? Did you actually tell him "I am not kidding ... stop or I'll scream"? Did you continue to be Dimitri's lover after the "anal rape" incident? Were you friends or more? Be honest with us. I was date-raped for real about 5 years ago and something just doesn't add up here. Dimitri was very respectful and sweet with me. Maybe the recent newspaper articles have altered your perception of the past.
Subzero / May 12, 2008 at 03:24 pm
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I believe I was clear in my blurb,firewoman, that I felt, by the virtue of being in the situation, that I deserved what was coming to me. I accept responsibility. As a point of detail, he was the one to tell me he had raped me. And no, at the time, I was in no way thinking we were "role playing". However, as I said, he was gentle and affectionate afterwards and perhaps in his mind that is all it was. And Firewoman, you must realize there are all kinds of bent and damaged psyches out there. People often keep dating people who have hurt them/raped them etc. I was also date raped as a young girl. but did I keep dating him? yes, because I was afraid of him and didn't exactly grow up in a supportive environment. You want honesty???? In a perverse way, yes, days later it did turn me on in a bizarre kind of way, and yes, he continued to be a lover for a brief time. My statement was not one of regret or remorse. I am not claiming to be a victim. The only reason I elaborated on the incident was a) because I was trying to put a previous off-handed comment about being afraid in perspective -why I felt for a while I was in danger and b) as a response to the idea that he is completely safe. Maybe yes-maybe no. BTW, not everyone responds to a situation in the same way, and the fact is, if Dimitri was going around "raping" women, no, it is unlikely that most women would report him. Statistically very few women report being raped exactly because as you have illustrated for us, they end up being interogated and being the ones to have to defend themselves. Not to mention, the public humiliation. I think my comments after saying I felt he was basically harmless are self-explanitory. Each person can answer the questions for themselves and draw there own conclusions. Your experience was not my experience, I'm not judging you for yours...
firewoman / May 12, 2008 at 03:36 pm
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What I am saying subzero is that Dimitri brilliantly "determined" that you would "enjoy" acting out the "anal rape fantasy" after questioning you. And from the fact that you state "days later it turned you on in a bizarre kind of way" tells me that his "diagnosis" of your need to act out an "anal rape fantasy" was likely accurate. Anyway, just my two cents.
Subzero / May 12, 2008 at 05:46 pm
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Brilliant Dr. Dimitri! Another psycho-sexual mystery unravelled. And people say it's wrong to exploit and humiliate the masses in the name of research. Poppycock, I say! The end justifies the means! Carry on Doctor.
Cindy Rella / May 12, 2008 at 09:35 pm
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I think firewoman was just being facetious, subzero. I read her last entry with sarcasm due to the quotes around the offensive words and the absurdity of the content. You are acting like a woman who still has feelings for this man. Take your own advice subzero ... find closure and move on !!!
firewoman / May 13, 2008 at 11:39 am
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Cindy Rella: You're absolutely correct. I thought most people could tell from the quotations around the words that I was being a bit sarcastic (though there is some truth behind the sarcasm). My sarcasm is part of the reason why men seem to become enraged when I get into arguments with them. Anyway, Subzero just can't seem to get Dimitri out of her mind. As an aside, a male friend of mine was falsely accused of rape after a mentally disturbed woman he was dating found out he was married (not cool on his part and sort of served him right). She felt so used that her rage turned into false accusations. I am sure the accusations were false because I knew her throughout the time she dated my friend and the transformation was scary--when he finally admitted his infidelity to her, she went psycho 180 on the situation, and went from thinking he was a God, to truly believing she had been raped. Luckily it did not go anywhere because the authorities saw right through it. These types of women make it more difficult for REAL victims to be taken seriously. I do not know Subzero personally, so I cannot say that she has psychological issues to that extreme, but she is definitely at least confused about her feelings for Dimitri, and sounds a bit paranoid. Like all of us, she was overwhelmed by this "sexy monster" of a man, and became hooked. WARNING TO ANY WOMAN READING THESE ENTRIES AND BECOMING INTRIGUED BY DIMITRI THE LOVER TO THE POINT WHERE SHE WANTS TO CONTACT HIM: Like Herpes, Dimitri's "sensual perversion" permanently infects any women he comes in contact with (lol). Most women have the mental stability to cope with this sort of "mind fuck" as Subzero put it, but some do not. I hope subzero does find closure and peace of mind.
Cindy Rella / May 13, 2008 at 10:24 pm
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I love the herpes analogy! BTW ... am I the only woman in the city who has not been seduced by Dimitri? I am beginning to feel inadequate!
"Samantha" / June 2, 2008 at 03:09 am
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I'm a "punky" type girl who was hit on my Dimitri just this evening on West Queen West (pretty much across the street from the Gladstone). What a scum bag. I have never felt so uncomfortable in my entire life - his brand of misogyny was ridiculous. Once I managed to basically run away from him, I couldn't help but laugh and then I googled him I was absolutely horrified. He is actually the biggest creep in the entire universe. I'm certain that he approached me because I fit his definition of someone who would be an easy conquest based on my "alternative" attire (like you mentioned in this article). I was so taken aback by everything that he said that I was just in shock and couldn't formulate a proper sentence. Now I wish I'd told him to go fuck himself.
Cindy Rella / June 3, 2008 at 12:13 am
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Samantha, no offence, but you obviously have psychological issues. Would you have us all believe that Dimitri's words were so powerful that you became "speechless"? I have studied psychology, and your reaction is very typical of a woman who was sexually abused by a male authority figure and when confronted by a male behaving in an authoritarian fashion, becomes flustered. These types of women seek out feminine men for relationships because it is "safe". How old are you? FYI, since my post a few weeks ago, I have contacted Dimitri The Lover, and have slept with him twice. I am writing a book on sex and dating, and needed to satisfy my own curiosity after reading all of the reviews on his sexual skills. Not only is Dimitri the best lover I have ever had by far, but in no way did he come across as a "scumbag" or "misogynist" or "creepy". He spent several hours teaching me about his philosphy on life and doctrines on sex, which I will incorporate into a chapter in my book. As he discusses on his web site in the "Dimitri The Lover" section, some women display a "Positive Dimitri Response" where they are instantly "creeped out" when he first meets them. I agree with him that those are the women that have been abused by men in the past. Like you, they are reacting to a man who is very much the opposite of the "metrosexual" that brings shame to the entire male sex. Your sentence "Now I wish I'd told him to go fuck himself" sounds a lot like "Now I wish I'd told my mother that he was touching me". Deal with your own issues and don't speak for the rest of us. I have become rather fond of the man and will defend him to the ends of the Earth. I learned that Dimitri never checks what is written about him on line because he just doesn't care about people's petty grievances, but I will inform him of your reaction. I am sure that he will get a charge out of knowing how "horrified" and "speechless" you were! lol
Japhet / June 3, 2008 at 02:46 am
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Dimitri DOES check what people say about him because we received several correspondences prior to the publication of this article.

For all I know, you could be Dimitri.
Cindy Rella / June 3, 2008 at 09:15 am
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How can Dimitri go ON LINE to "check" what you have said about him PRIOR to its publication ON LINE? This sounds like an X-Files episode. If you are going to confabulate Mr. Japhet, try not to do so in the wee hours of the morning when you are tired. Perhaps in your fantasies Dimitri is somehow affected by the petty bickering created by your biased article, but from my impression in speaking with him, he is not. I just received an e-mail back from him after sending him one about Samantha last night. Dimitri said that he had absolutely no desire to discuss anything written in this blog. He remembers Samantha, who he refers to as an "elegant stunning underfucked slut with childhood issues", and he was quite taken by her, wanting to help her overcome her problems while being her lover. He made it clear to me that you Mr. Japhet had personal issues that arose out of a meeting with him (something about him mocking your attire and commenting that you had a beard like a "Quaker", whatever that means) and he said that you should "stick to boozing up people at Joy". I did not understand this last comment ... maybe he meant "with joy", but even that makes no sense. Dimitri is rather eccentric and often makes bizarre statements which become more clear with time. Dimitri told me to let you enjoy your "15 minutes of fame" and leave you be. He said that you were a bartender and this outlet for your personal grievances is all you have that makes you feel like a real man, and I should let you vent. Some Hollywood big wigs are working on a reality show about Dimitri, and he is madly trying to get ahead of his work to make himself available for shooting in mid-July. Unfortunately for your ego, he just has no time to care. However, I have time and I do care. But, as per Dimitri's request, I will leave you be.
firewoman / June 3, 2008 at 03:39 pm
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So you took the plunge too, Cindy Rella, even after my herpes analogy! Now you're officially the last woman in Toronto, other than "Samantha", to sleep with Dimitri. (lol) Dimitri's kind of like a guilty pleasure, isn't he? I agree with your analysis of "Samantha": how anyone who has met Dimitri in person can think of him as anything other than sexy, charming, and seductive, is completely beyond me. She's probably young and sexually inexperienced, and I agree with you, most likely has a past history of sexual abuse. On the topic of a reality TV show about Dimitri, I instead heard that it was a documentary about his life that was being filmed in August. 2 weeks ago an acquaintance of mine who works at a restaurant was eavesdropping on Dimitri while he was being schmoozed by what sounded like a producer from L.A.. My friend instantly recognized him from the photo in the Toronto Sun (he has a unique look, as you know). Are you sure your sexual exploits with the man weren't being secretly videotaped for the documentary? (lol) Ever since learning about the film, I have been obsessed with checking on line for commentary about Dimitri and details on the film. I feel like a sexual groupie! Maybe we should join The Church of Dimitri of Latter Day Sluts. hahaha DIMITRI! REMEMBER ME, CARLIE FROM THE BEACHES! IF YOU READ THIS POST I WANT TO BE IN YOUR FILM! I'LL DO FULL FRONTAL NUDITY AND LESBIAN STUFF TOO!!! Actually, you're probably right, Cindy Rella, he probably doesn't bother reading this garbage. I'll e-mail him tonight. Thanks for the heads up!
Cindy Rella / June 3, 2008 at 08:48 pm
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Yes, firewoman, I took the plunge, and Dimitri was totally wicked in bed. Interesting that you mention being "secretly videotaped", because I was a little nervous in his bedroom that some video equipment was hidden in the closet. I actually checked both closets when he went into the washroom! Just neatly lined up shirts ... he's totally OC.
firewoman / June 4, 2008 at 02:07 pm
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Saying Dimitri is OC is a total understatement. I remember his home being immaculate with nothing out of place. I was so exhausted from the sex that I could hardly move, so he told me to take a nap and surprised me by making me dinner (really excellent cook). We were eating squating in front of the TV when I dropped a bit of food on the carpet. He had the vacuum out within seconds. Dimitri even uses baking soda as deodorant and toothpaste because he is afraid of chemicals. He cooks on cast iron instead of teflon for fear of cancer. I remember once he ran out of the kitchen when I turned the microwave on! His OC seems to enhance his sexual skills because he is very technical in his love making, but mixed with so much Greek passion that a girl really doesn't notice the wheels turning in his head which direct his hands, tongue, and cock. Have you gone to his web site and read his "Observations on Life"? The man is as brilliant as he is offensive. Really, his mind turned me on more than his looks. I especially agree with the "Dog Like Submission" section on his web site. I am totally into submitting to a man, but only if he treats me like a princess. I don't mean financially, but the way Dimitri does, with sexual and gastronomic pampering. I can come just hearing his voice on the phone. Actually, Dimitri responded to my e-mail from last night. Dirty boy wants me to call him and discuss the "film" (no TV show I guess?) and he would like me to meet some flavour of the month named "Heather", who needs to be "bisexualized". She's very, very pretty from the photos. Yum. Heather wouldn't by any chance be you, Cindy Rella?
Japhet / June 4, 2008 at 02:29 pm
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I'm not about to reveal exactly how he did it but through an error of my own, he was able to preview the post before I published it.

An e-mail dialogue followed, complete with a bullshit claim that he an anonymous informant, a request to remove the first name of one of his partners (which we agreed to) a request to remove any mention of OCAD and a suggestion that the piece bordered "on libel".

When I attended his meeting, he offered advice on my attire and facial hair but it wasn't given mockingly, at least as far as I took it. I actually thought he had a point and I referenced that in the article.

I don't have some kind of personal vendetta against Dimitri and this piece has hardly garnered any kind of "fame" for myself. Yep, I'm glancing out of my window and I don't see any admiring hoards. There are no e-mails from fans and I haven't been inundated with job offers.

Jenny and I wrote the piece because we were simultaneously fascinated and repulsed by Dimitri and his "Real Men" meetings. I don't hate the guy but his attempts to misdirect the flow of this comment page are silly and pathetic (just like those e-mails we got).

Every person who defends him has the same writing style. Why do you think this is?
firewoman / June 4, 2008 at 03:10 pm
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"The same writing style"? Perhaps Dimitri only dates intelligent women with exceptional English language skills. With all due respect please take up your grievances with Dimitri and leave me out of this. You cannot host a public forum then accuse participants who disagree with you but are communicating with one another in decent language of being proxies for your arch nemesis (or whatever Dimitri is to you). I have no animosity toward you and only reported what I heard about you directly from Dimitri. You just provided your side of the story. Thank you.
"sandra" / June 4, 2008 at 03:21 pm
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I've been lurking on here for weeks. What a total blast! But the last comment by "Japhet" irritated me. I approached Dimitri The Lover after reading your article. I love dominant men and he sure lived up to his reputation. Gotta agree with all the comments from the ladies above. He's totally fucking hot, a complete freak in bed, and totally eccentric. Lay off The Lover "Japhet". Maybe you should keep going to Toronto real men meetings, and you'd have women hanging outside your window!
"sandra" / June 4, 2008 at 03:22 pm
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I've been lurking on here for weeks. What a total blast! But the last comment by "Japhet" irritated me. I approached Dimitri The Lover after reading your article. I love dominant men and he sure lived up to his reputation. Gotta agree with all the comments from the ladies above. He's totally fucking hot, a complete freak in bed, and totally eccentric. Lay off The Lover "Japhet". Maybe you should keep going to Toronto real men meetings, and you'd have women hanging outside your window!
firewoman / June 4, 2008 at 03:32 pm
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Je suis d'accord! What a great name for an article: Lay Off The Lover.
"sandra" / June 4, 2008 at 04:00 pm
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Maybe we'll co-author it! I don't know who "Heather" is but he was seeing a "Katerina" from Miami that he mentions on his web site. He showed me nude photos of her. Fucking hot! I'm bisexual but he doubts she'll do anything with me since they broke up (they were madly in love but the long distance killed it). I know Dimitri's taste, so I know you're going to look hot. If you want to hook up, I'm totally interested. Just tell him Sandra from the book store in the Annex with the purple hair wants to join the two of you. He has photos of me. Have him send me some of you. Later.
Japhet / June 4, 2008 at 04:07 pm
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@firewoman

Umm, yes I can.
firewoman / June 4, 2008 at 04:14 pm
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I think his ex-gf is named "Katarina". Dimitri started seeing her around the time he stopped seeing me. He kind of went head over heels for her and fell off the face of the Earth. I knew it wouldn't last because I suspected she was playing him (you know, hot Latina stewardess, couldn't find a man locally in Miami ... yah right). OK, I'll mention you when I call tonight tonight. I am also completely bi and totally game, especially if you have tatoos or piercings, which usually come with the territory with "purple hair". See you soon!
Churchill / June 4, 2008 at 08:15 pm
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WTF?!

Dimtri has his hooks in your personal information! As he (James N. Sears) is the same guy that operates The Second Opinion and who has a business partner at Trillium Mortgage, then Dimitri the Lover has access: Through your medical files he has your psych and sex history, and through his business partner he may possibly have access to your financial data. WTF?!!!

Enough already. Call your municipal representative and complain. To contact your city councillor in Toronto go to this link:
http://app.toronto.ca/im/council/councillors.jsp

If you don't live in Toronto, contact your local council member anyway because who knows how far his business reaches? Dimitri's partner at Trillium Mortgage is located in cottage country.


Maybe the Law Society of Upper Canada would like to know how Jame N. Sears is making a mockery of the justice system, too.
http://www.lsuc.on.ca/about/a/contact/
Email the complaints department at comail@lsuc.ca

Below, please find a link to the report that ended James N. Sears medical career where you will see more evidence of a disturbed mind:

The College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario; Discipline
Committee Decisions July/August 1993
http://www.cpso.on.ca/Publications/Discsum/1993/disc93.07.htm#Dr.%20
James%20N.%20Sears

Cindy Rella / June 4, 2008 at 08:49 pm
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You're 2 months too late in setting off the alarm bells, "Churchill". All of this information was already contained in the Toronto Sun article on Dimitri. You come across as an extremely angry and paranoid individual. Do you believe everything you read? Have you had personal dealings with Dimitri? Are you a disgruntled lover? Actually, it reminds me of a quote from Winston Churchill which goes "a lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on". Everyone already knows about Dimitri's colourful past, and it appears from what I have been reading, that anyone that knows him well takes what has been written about him with a huge grain of salt. My limited experience with Dimitri has been quite positive ... he seems nothing like his disciplinary report. And I believe the "Doctor" title is bestowed for life, like a PhD, based on one's degree. However, I guess all of this shocking history is the reason why Hollywood is coming north to film him in action as "Dimitri The Love Doctor", womanizing mortgage broker. Look on the bright side, "Churchill" ... when Dimitri is a famous movie star, he'll be making so much money, he'll stop looking into your medical and mortgage files for a living! lol
"sandra" / June 5, 2008 at 10:49 am
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When I found out Dimitri was a doctor I asked him if we could act out a doctor fantasy with me getting my pap and the doctor using his cock instead of his instruments! The fact he went totally over the line with his patients is so fucking hot!!! He is going to set something up with a friend that has a clinic. I remember one doctor at a walk in clinic near OCAD that asked me out on a date after I went in for a tummy ache. I was a little young at the time and I couldn't go thru with it. But I want it now, bad!
firewoman / June 5, 2008 at 10:57 am
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Sandra: The fact that Dimitri crossed the line sexually during his medical career is very, very erotic. Whenever people break taboos, be it screwing on your desk at work, French kissing your cousin, having your first bisexual experience, or making out with your doctor in the examining room, it is always very exciting. I was never big on the whole doctor fantasy though, viewing medical offices as very sterile and clinical. Also, I had some medical issues as a teenager which prevent me from ever being able to eroticize a medical office. Instead, the mere fact that Dimitri crossed the line without any regard to social norms or professional consequences, merely to fulfill his primitive male urges, is exciting and to be commended. Thank you for sharing your fantasy with us!
Churchill / June 6, 2008 at 04:30 pm
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clones
Pure Soul / June 8, 2008 at 03:58 pm
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You people are all perverted and sick. God will give Dimitri AIDS the same way he did the homosexuals. There is no place for sex outside of the sacred bond of marriage. The doctor patient bond is just as sacred. This man has demons in his head which were implanted by the devil after a life of sin. Praise Jesus and may his blood wash away the vile sinful thoughts of fornication that are in your brains. May he purify your reproductive organs of disease so that you may be fruitful and multiply and fill the Earth with those made in God's image. Lord have mercy on your souls. Do not allow Dimitri to take you to hell with him, for he is a lost cause. He has defiled the Blessed Virgin Mary in his disgusting animations. He is the antichrist incarnate. Accept Jesus into your hearts now, before it is too late. Amen!
chris / June 12, 2008 at 01:52 pm
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more on dr. sears aka dimitri the lover:
http://www.cpso.on.ca/Publications/Discsum/1993/disc93.07.htm#Dr.%20James%20N.%20Sears

makes for some very entertaining reading:

"Dr. Sears entered a plea of not guilty to a charge of incompetence and to the charge of improperly, using his authority to prescribe.

He pleaded guilty to the charges of sexual impropriety, with three patients but not guilty to two others. He also entered a plea of guilty to one of two charges of disgraceful, dishonourable or unprofessional conduct. "

"During a professional visit to the first female complainant. Dr. Sears made comments to the effect that he would like to get to know her better, that sex was fun and that he would call her later about getting together for a drink. He also pulled her to him and kissed her on the neck The second complainant was visited in her home and, following a clinical evaluation, was asked about her sex life, present commitments and past involvements with married men. Dr. Sears then discussed his unsatisfactory sexual relationship with his wife and asked the patient to date him or to become involved in a sexual relationship with him. She declined both requests."

"Complaining about his wife's lack of interest in sex, he boasted that he could do it 10 times a day. The patient declined his request that they have sex. He then went to the washroom where he admits that he <b>may</b> have masturbated. "
Churchill / June 12, 2008 at 02:06 pm
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Dance, Dimitri, Dance

http://hush-doc.livejournal.com/980.html
Angela / June 28, 2008 at 02:53 am
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I found this article after listening to that creepy voice mail. This guy is completely psychotic and his multiple posts here are painfully transparent. Granted, he may be intelligent, but suffice it to say that may be all he has going for him. Self absorbed, narcissistic, narrow minded, and fucking weird to boot. thanks for the interesting read, Japhet ^^
Japhet / June 29, 2008 at 02:53 am
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The following is a YouTube video of a recording of a message left on a women's voicemail by Dimitri:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c06pinaKl8o
Id / June 29, 2008 at 11:11 am
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It seems to me that many of the overly-defensive comments from Dmitri's fan club are probably written by Dmitri himself using aliases. Quite the "advertising" gimmick if you ask me. Pathetic and shameless, but ingenious.
Anonymous / June 29, 2008 at 04:53 pm
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It is way too coincidental that this message surfaced during the shooting of Dimitri's documentary. Films need months of publicity leading up to release, so timing is perfect. The recipient of this message was either in on it, or a naive woman duped into distributing it. Either way, I agree with Id ... positively brilliant on Dimitri's part.
One of those Girls / July 2, 2008 at 03:15 am
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My mom was staying in Toronto to receive treatment for cancer, and was staying at the Princess Margaret Lodge. We went shopping with her one day, and he approached me on the street. He asked my mom if he could "flirt with her friend". After complimenting me and all that, we exchanged numbers, no big whoop. When he called, all he wanted to talk about was sex, and how he wants a woman whose a slut, but classy. After not hanging up like I should of, he asked me if I'd be interested in a threesome, with two men, and he even said he likes to suck cock, but he's not gay. Classic.
After getting out of a show with my mom (Kids in the Hall), I checked my phone. He left 3 text messages along the same lines as that voice mail in Japhet's comment.
Earl Bales / July 2, 2008 at 03:52 pm
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Unsure about the veracity of this, but you can decide for yourselves" http://www.callferret.com/416-918-7014.html
Nessa / July 6, 2008 at 07:40 pm
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First of all, is it just me, or does anyone else think that ALL of the comments that go on and on about Dimitri being the most fantastic lover are written by Dimitri himself? Dude, at least change your writing style a little bit - it's like reading soft-core porn. BAD soft-core porn. ("Tracey"? "Triss"?)

Secondly, I know for a fact that the voicemails he left my friend Olga (which are now everywhere) are totally coincidental to whatever bullshit project he's working on now. It's really unfortunate that this degenerate is getting publicity.

Thirdly, the girl that says she was anally raped needs to press charges. Anyone else who feels like they were in any way abused by him need to go to the police. This guy has some serious issues, and they need to be addressed by the authorities (in my opinion).
Nessa / July 6, 2008 at 07:42 pm
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Earl Bales: 416-918-7014 is his number. When he calls, the call display reads "Hot Greek Stud". No Joke.

He also works for Trillium Mortgage, and his real name is James Sears.
Jenny / July 6, 2008 at 08:29 pm
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It's weird that those posts say that Olga is from San Fran. Didn't make sense to me. I tried reaching him for a follow-up story I wrote last week. He's changed his cell - but he does live in the Kew Beach area still.

http://www.torontosun.com/News/TorontoAndGTA/2008/06/29/6017096-sun.html
Churchill / July 6, 2008 at 08:56 pm
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Speaking of Scientology (Jenny) --
There's a new anti-Dimitri video on YouTube -- it's like the ANONYMOUS campaign against Scientology
http://www.youtube.com/hushupdoc
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Churchill / July 6, 2008 at 08:58 pm
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Ahh, Japhet -- sorry about the mis-representation there. You were the one that mentioned Scientology.

By the way, love your blog.
TheNSWPB / July 8, 2008 at 01:56 pm
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I've been on my own path of self discovery and improvement for a little over a year now. I've heard of this Dimitri guy before...but now that I've had the chance to hear other people's stories, it doesn't surprise my why they looked up to him.

There are just as many disturbed, egotistical manipulative sociopathic guys in "The community" as there are normal, shy, and confused. Too many "pickup guru's" preach what to say and do to get a desired response, instead of being the best person you can be, and LETTING others be attracted to you.

That's why when I take on clients, I make sure to let them know it's all about improving themselves. They cannot MAKE a woman like them, and it is misleading to use lines and bullshit from somebody else to try. You don't have to fake being an interesting, caring and intelligent person if you ARE or are BECOMING one.

Much love

Jeremy (The NSWPB)
Japhet / July 8, 2008 at 02:03 pm
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I'm not exactly sure what goes on in Dimitri's one-on-one sessions with clients but I do know that he mostly talked about improving oneself and being more aware of how others perceive you (based on what you say, how you dress, etc.).

That might be what actually happens but I think his ideas on self-improvement are essentially valid.
Churchill / July 8, 2008 at 07:04 pm
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Well then, if only he practiced what he preaches.

Then again, I guess that why Sears uses sock puppets and alter egos to express the things that aren't appropriate for James Sears to say. That is, the things that are generally just inappropriate.
Miss Gisele B / July 10, 2008 at 12:06 pm
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I truly do not believe anyone would think like that in 2008. It's sad. On paper Dimitri the lover looks like perfection but in reality he's looking more and more like a bad-relationship waiting to happen.

This is a great feature piece

Miss Gisele B.
David K / July 22, 2008 at 10:46 pm
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Incredibly obvious that most of the posts saying how great Dimitri is are written by him. I am a linguistic analyst, and let me just say that men and women have different writing styles. You can't tell gender from every piece of writing, but from many you can. The defensive posts above are composed by a male mind. I put the chance that they were written by a female at less than 5%.

No offense meant to anyone of either sex. I am not a chauvinist or trying to pigeonhole entire genders. I'm just pointing out the obvious that other commenters have already seen. The posts are from Dimitri.
Cat Woman / August 7, 2008 at 11:45 pm
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Here is the announcement for Dimitri The Lover's next "Toronto Real Men" meeting ...

http://groups.google.ca/group/alt.seduction.fast/browse_thread/thread/5088801d804a9a75?hl=en#
Jeremy / September 18, 2008 at 01:18 pm
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This guy gives "Pickup Artists" a bad name...well, at least a worse name then they already have ;)

Another "cult like" personality in Toronto would be "Johnny Soporno", although he embodies the exact OPPOSITE of Dmitri, he would still make a GREAT article.
Ima / December 4, 2008 at 02:34 pm
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Now he's trolling, disguised as a woman, on the blog at The White Ribbon Campaign, where men talk to men about masculinity in order to end violence against women. (Blog entry Nov 29, 2008). He must be really desperate.
Also there's a new facebook group that employs a touch of parody, 'Not Fans of Dimitri the Lover'. The group started the day after he hit White Ribbon (also on facebook).
WHO CARES !!! / December 5, 2008 at 04:48 pm
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I am sick and tired of hearing about "DIMITRI THE LOVER". Why are you indirectly promoting this guy? Over the last two months I have received no less than 4 e-mails concerning this parasite, including one spam from the "Toronto Real Men" (pleeeeeeeeeeze). I would have passed along the spam to friends for a laugh, but after learning that he has a film coming out next year, I chose to just delete it. ANY publicity, even BAD publicity, is GOOD publicity. Even if he got hauled off to jail he would sell more courses. Use your brain and ignore this guy ... for the good of all of Toronto.
Roseanne / December 7, 2008 at 02:55 pm
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I was sitting in Tequila Bookworm a couple of weeks back and spotted none other than Dimitri The Lover chatting up a very attractive girl of no older than 20. She was completely captivated by the guy. I overheard bits of the conversation and must admit that he was quite charming and seductive. After he left, I informed her of WHO he was and WHAT he was all about. I figured that my intervention should have sufficiently scared her off of Mr. Lover. I ran into the same girl today and during a friendly chat she informed me that she SLEPT WITH HIM! I asked her WHY she would do such a thing after I had specifically warned her about his history, including his misogyny and lack of condom use. She said that she was looking for a good lover and was swayed by comments made in some Facebook fan club for Dimitri The Lover in which several ex-girlfriends and lovers posted positive "reviews" of him. I am in my 40's and cannot understand women under 25. It is almost like a badge of honour to sleep with men of ill repute. It sickens me.
Roseanne / December 7, 2008 at 03:05 pm
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Oh, and I nearly forgot. Mr. Lover's latest gift of misogyny to the community: http://dimitrithelover.com/TRMannouncement.html
Murphy / January 21, 2009 at 01:26 pm
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The community isn't all bad. Check out seductionexplained.com for its good points
somegirl / February 13, 2009 at 08:56 am
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I met him last week on Bloor Street West, in the Annex, trying to pick up any woman that was walking alone. He did approched me and ask me if I wanna go for coffee but I told no. He looked like a freakin fool, the way he talked, the way he was dressed. When I told him no, he said :"what, you're afraid of real men?" and I started walking away, he ran after me and gave me his "business card". I started laughing. He said "I give course on how to make love and how to please a woman!". I told him to leave me alone and so he did. Than, he started walking after another woman that just passed us... Now that's crazy!
someboy / February 13, 2009 at 10:35 am
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You were likely hit on by one of Dimitri's disciples, "Pavel The Lover". He frequents the Annex, has a thick Russian accent, and on the back of his card he mentions Dimitri The Lover's courses. What gave it away was the fact that he "ran after" you. From what I read on line, it is very typical of this guy. You are lucky he didn't flash you his penis: http://torontoist.com/2009/02/pavel_the_lovers_iphone_penis_whipout.php
Katy B. / February 13, 2009 at 12:46 pm
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Dimitri approached me a couple of weeks ago in a grocery store in the Annex. I was flattered, told him I wasn't interested, but he did not chase after me or make comments like what "somegirl" describes. I think you're right "someboy", it was likely one of his disciples. And also unlike what "somegirl" describes, when I met him he was impeccably dressed, talked really smooth and looked quite handsome (if I had been single I likely would have gone for coffee just for a laugh). I did not know about this Pavel character. Pretty scary.
SOMEGIRL / February 13, 2009 at 03:22 pm
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He did have a Russian accent but he said he was Greek. And he wasn't handsome. More like Asparagus-skinny, all dressed in black with a leather jacket very '90's style. He looked wacko. Not even for a laugh would I go for coffee with that dude.
oh brother! / February 13, 2009 at 08:02 pm
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Dimitri has no accent. He approached me in the summer. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but I thought he was pretty hot, and definitely did not look "wacko". He was rather sweet and non-threatening. Must be one of his cohorts.
yuck / February 25, 2009 at 03:35 pm
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He hit on me on the weekend. Walked right up to me in the grocery store. Threw me off. I thought he was a creep from the beginning. Telling me he loved my eyes and curves and asking if I had 30 minutes for a coffee. He told me he could promise me lust, maybe not love but lust. I am glad to see that my asshole radar is working well. I left the grocery store feeling like I had to have a shower and erasing his number that he gave me. Being a newly single girl, that experience and this article makes me want to go running back to my ex knowing that Dimitri and his followers are out there. Who are they kidding thinking this works. He was so forward it was scary.
Tracey / March 3, 2009 at 12:25 pm
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If it didn't work, men would not be attending these meetings: http://www.torontorealmen.com
Feminist Fury / March 28, 2009 at 07:18 pm
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If you fast forward to 11:30, there is "Dimitri The Lover" spewing his chauvinistic garbage for almost 10 minutes, http://blip.tv/file/1896366
In Desperate Need / July 8, 2009 at 12:01 am
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I am an attractive woman that is rarely approached by men. They are all too timid. Maybe Dimitri The Lover is a bit extreme, but then maybe men need this sort of thing to wake them from their sexual slumber. I'd rather they all be as aggressive and piggish as Dimitri than settle for what I am getting right now.
Dimitri Does It Again / July 9, 2009 at 02:34 pm
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Handed to a Ryerson University student yesterday:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/christoum/3704411688/
Mike W replying to a comment from Tracey / July 9, 2009 at 04:09 pm
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Just like Q-Ray bracelets and Psychics.

I'm sure treating all girls like sluts really "works".
Neville Ross / September 5, 2009 at 07:06 pm
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All I can think of when I read this article is this old song:

<b>I'm Gonna Tear Your Playhouse Down</b>-<i>Ann Peebles</i>

You think you've got it all set up,
you think you've got the perfect plan
to charm everyone you see
and playing any game you can.

But I've got news for you,
I hope it don't hit you too hard.
One of these days while you're at play
I'm gonna catch you off guard.

I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room.

You make our lives a stress and strain
using the power ploy.
All you do is pass around
hearts you use as play toys.

You've been playing madly
with every mind in town.
So what you gonna do when you look up one day
and see your playhouse tumbling down.

I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room.

You think you've got it all set up,
you think you've got the perfect plan
to charm everyone you see
and playing any game you can.

You've been playing madly
with every mind in town.
Oh, what you gonna do when you look up one day
and see your playhouse tumbling down.

I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room.

I'm gonna tear your playhouse down pretty soon.
I'm gonna tear your playhouse down room by room by room.
(repeat ad lib. & fade)
Jack / September 22, 2009 at 10:57 pm
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I really like the book "Emotional Freedom" by Judith Orloff, M.D. Vampires like this guy need victims, and if society could teach everyone to keep their positive energy safe maybe people like him would lose their food source, then die or change. We need to help people be happy and protected, and help people like him with their behavioral illnesses, not turn away and let the problem go on...
Not Funny replying to a comment from In Desperate Need / October 7, 2009 at 03:25 pm
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So then, you agree with this?

http://twitter.com/dimitrithelover
Not Greek / November 29, 2009 at 07:45 pm
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For everyone that was doubting Dimitri The Lover, here is a message from Hollywood Producer Brad Goodman (from Borat and Bruno) about the Dimitri The Lover movie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8iwVgnPEpgw
Mike Kirby / January 7, 2010 at 06:07 pm
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This sheeeyit is just way to funny. This is also just about the best viral marketing campaign I've ever seen. Can't wait to see the movie. (Didn't know about the movie? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8iwVgnPEpgw )
Spam / January 7, 2010 at 06:21 pm
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Too much spam on this site.

Can't afford real marketing? Just post it everywhere online.. I thought companies had to pay to do this..
Tyciol / January 9, 2010 at 07:09 pm
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I think people do not understand Dimitri's epicness, they are not awesome enough.
Movie Lover / February 14, 2010 at 08:16 am
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According to Dimitri The Lover's twitter, test version of movie trailer just uploaded yesterday. Producer Brad Goodman (Borat, Bruno, Religulous) looking for feedback:

http://www.youtube.com/user/DimitriTheLoverMovie
Diablo Blanco / March 22, 2010 at 11:30 pm
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About the trailer: both amusing and shocking. On the one hand, everyone should see this douchebag, but on the other it will give him the attention he so desperately lives for.

I'm going to watch it as a study of the human dark side.
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this man has a hard time getting me money for my morgage but gives good anel sex. his toungue like toilet paper. love your work
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Before I knew who he was, "Dmitri" and i went on a date. He stopped me on a street one day, showered me in complements and asked me out. It took me all of 30 seconds of meeting him to realize he was a very disturbed and manipulative person. His behaviour was baffling and he did nothing but turn me right off. Just a total psycho!
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But maybe you could a little more in the way of content so people could connect with
it better. Certainly you got an awful lot of text for only having one or 2 images.

Maybe you could space it out better?

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