Cuddle Party!

Cuddle Party
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There's a Cuddle Party tonight! What's a Cuddle Party you ask? According to the invitation, a Cuddle Party is "safe non-sexual event/workshop to explore giving and receiving affectionate touch, like hugging, massaging, foot-rubbing, spooning, nuzzling." Essentially the party is for anyone who enjoys human touching (which is pretty much everyone, as far as I know.) The parties are meant to give people an opportunity to be physically close with others, without the pressure of social norms or sexual activity.

Almost everyone loves a hug, but in many cases it's socially awkward to hug someone you are not in a relationship with. Even many close friends are not on a "it's okay for us to hug" basis. The Cuddle Parties are also a place to "learn communication skills and boundary-setting around touch."

So what can you expect from a Cuddle Party? Well, first of all, everyone brings pajamas to change into and remains in their PJs the entire time! You need to get verbal permission from someone before initiating any physical contact, and there is no pressure to cuddle anyone you don't want to. There isn't any pressure to cuddle anyone at all!

Cuddle Party
Tonight's party takes place at Wonderworks (79A Harbord Street) between 7pm and 10:30. The cost to attend is $40 per person and $30 each if you're bringing friends. The organizers have also offered to provide sliding scale options to those on fixed incomes.

For more information visit CuddleParty.com or the Facebook Event Listing.

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I know I'm not the only one who thinks this shit is fucking WEIRD. Puppy piles?!? No sex? No drugs? NO ROCK AND ROLL?!?

Posted by: Ninja-bot at November 28, 2007 10:44 AM

no.

Posted by: richelle at November 28, 2007 11:49 AM

bump.

Posted by: frank at November 28, 2007 12:07 PM

hump.

Posted by: Ninja-bot at November 28, 2007 1:54 PM

????????
what's next: a "scratch my back" party?

Posted by: cmonet at November 28, 2007 2:03 PM

And why does it cost 40 bucks?

Posted by: RandomTangent at November 28, 2007 2:50 PM

Cuddle parties are gay. How socially awkward do you have to be to enjoy this?

Posted by: Japhet at November 28, 2007 3:16 PM

I think the idea is a good, wholesome one - different from most of the events in society.

And I think the $40 charge is to ensure only serious attendees show up.

Posted by: Rick at November 28, 2007 3:36 PM

weird. dumb. lame.

wake me up when we start a local fight club.

Posted by: RBeezy at November 28, 2007 3:59 PM

Ok, wow this sounds really creepy. I am a pretty socially liberal guy and this just rubs me the wrong way (excuse the pun). I can understand S&M but this is just kind of weird...

Posted by: creepy at November 28, 2007 4:26 PM

*Hands Japhet an 'abuse of the word "gay"' citation*

(And yes, this is a very *weird* idea)

Posted by: Adam at November 28, 2007 7:08 PM

@Japhet Yeah, and also to ensure that the promoters get money for pretty much nothing.

Posted by: Danielle at November 28, 2007 11:44 PM

I refuse to submit to the idea that socially-aware individuals are not allowed to deliberately use words like that when they deem it appropriate.

I'm also perfectly willing to take heat for that.

Posted by: Japhet at November 29, 2007 1:47 AM

Cuddling is foreplay, it is an intimate activity. By trying to be objective about it like this, it implies a fear of sex.

Most people I know who are into this kind of cuddling have serious intimacy issues. It could be argued that this is therapy and I might buy that but I don't think it's being honestly presented.

Posted by: Japhet at November 29, 2007 1:55 AM

weird!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: jp at November 29, 2007 4:24 PM

I've been to a cuddle party a couple years ago for a story.
I didn't pay as much because I negotiated a student deal. What I got for the money? A bunch of snacks (cookies, grapes, cheese and crackers), an afternoon activity, and a really great story.

It really wasn't creepy. People do need human contact, and Toronto can be a really tough city to get it. That's why seniors massaging babies is so beneficial for both.

You ask everyone before you touch them at all, and everyone asks you. It seems weird, but it wasn't after the introduction, that explains the rules, and why it's beneficial.

They take money so they can rent the space and so the "lifeguards" (the people moderating) can be trained and paid. They pay for their website, and whatever administrative costs they may have.

There were some people there that probably did have intimacy issues, but there were also people there that I would consider totally cool and normal (And I'm an expert on cool and normal).

It wasn't really my thing, but I wouldn't trash it. If it isn't for you, don't go.

Posted by: Rebecca at December 1, 2007 12:32 PM

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